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    need help in positive relationship

    i need some help in building positive relationship. i was hurted by many friends and family members due to some mis understandings. i dont know whether i am seeing only faults in them or in the opposite. i am very much confused. felt all are cheating me. how to trust everyone.. i am feeling life as very much -ve with all friends and family members.

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    Re: need help in positive relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by srivaishu08 View Post
    i need some help in building positive relationship. i was hurted by many friends and family members due to some mis understandings. i dont know whether i am seeing only faults in them or in the opposite. i am very much confused. felt all are cheating me. how to trust everyone.. i am feeling life as very much -ve with all friends and family members.

    Welcome srivaishu.. to our penmai......
    pls relax......


    our seniors.. will help and guide you.......

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    Re: need help in positive relationship

    Welcome Vaishu
    Be relaxed, ..
    our Friends will give suggestions.

    Reduce your expectations, and accept your relations as they are(with positive and negative).

    Sal

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    Re: need help in positive relationship

    10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy

    1. Meditate or do yoga.

    One of the first things I did was head to a yoga class. It took my focus away from my thoughts and brought my attention to my breath. Yoga is also very relaxing which helped ease my mind. Yoga helped me stay present to my experience so instead of jumping to what could happen, it brought me back to the nowóthe only moment, the most important moment.

    2. Smile.

    I didnít do much of this during the weekend so I literally had to bring myself in front of a mirror and force myself to smile. It really does help change your mood and relieve stress. I also felt lighter because it takes fewer muscles to smile than to frown.

    3. Surround yourself with positive people.

    I called a friend who I knew could give me constructive, yet loving feedback. When youíre stuck in a negative spiral, talk to people who can put things into perspective and wonít feed your negative thinking.

    4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.

    For example, instead of thinking, ďWe are going to have a hard time adjusting to our living situation,Ē think, ďWe will face some challenges in our living situation, but we will come up with solutions that we will both be happy with.Ē

    5. Donít play the victim. You create your lifeótake responsibility.

    The way I was thinking and acting, you would think I was stuck. Even if our living situation becomes unbearable, there is always a way out. I will always have the choice to make change happen, if need be.

    6. Help someone.

    Take the focus away from you and do something nice for another person.I decided to make a tray of food and donate it to the Salvation Army. It took my mind off of things and I felt better for helping someone else.

    7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward.

    Itís easy to dwell on your mistakes. I felt terrible that I acted this way and that I wasted our weekend. The only thing I can do now is learn from my mistakes and move forward. I definitely donít want to have a weekend like that again.

    8. Sing.

    I donít remember lyrics very well and itís probably the reason that I donít enjoy singing, but every time I do sing I always feel better . When we sing, we show our feelings and this provides an amazing stress relief.

    9. List five things that you are grateful for right now.

    Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. Hereís my list: My cats, health, a six-week trip to Asia, a new yoga class that Iíll be teaching, and for my momís biopsy coming out clean.

    10. Read positive quotes.

    I like to place Post-It notes with positive quotes on my computer, fridge door, and mirror as reminders to stay positive. Also, Iíd like to share with you a quote by an unknown author that was shared in a meditation class that I attended:

    Watch your thoughts, they become words.
    Watch your words, they become actions.
    Watch your actions, they become habits.
    Watch your habits, they become your character.
    Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

    Happy positive thinking!

    source:10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy


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    Re: need help in positive relationship

    then if u hv time to read book...

    plz read






    நண்பர்களை எளிதாக பெறுவதும் மக்களிடம் செல்வாக்குடன் விளங்குவதும் எப்படி ... இந்த புத்தகம் நல்ல கருத்துக்கள் அடங்கியது ...
    எனக்கு பிடிச்ச வரிகளை சொல்றேன் . . .

    உண்மையாக இருங்கள். உங்களால் செய்ய முடியாதவற்றை பற்றி வாக்குறுதி அளிக்காதீர்கள் . உங்களுக்கான ஆதாயங்களை பற்றி மறந்து விட்டு , அடுத்தவருக்கான ஆதாயங்களில் கவனம் செலுத்துங்கள் !

    அடுத்தவரைப் புரிந்து கொள்ளுங்கள் , அடுத்தவருக்கு உண்மையிலேயே என்ன வேண்டும் என்பது பற்றி நீங்கள் உங்களையே கேட்டுக் கொள்ளுங்கள் !

    புகழ்ச்சியோடும் நேர்மையான பாரட்டுதலோடும் துவங்குங்கள் !

    அடுத்தவரின் தவறுகளை மறைமுகமாக சுட்டி காட்டுங்கள் !

    அடுத்தவரை விமர்சிப்பதற்கு முன் உங்களது சொந்தத் தவறுகளைப் பற்றிப் பேசுங்கள் !

    அடுத்தவர் தன் கண்ணியத்தை காப்பாற்றிக் கொள்ள அனுமதியுங்கள் !



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    Re: need help in positive relationship

    @Mary Daisy,
    Super friend!!!. The 10 points that you shared is, like a direct message for me from a well wisher/supreme power, to motivate and guide me forward at the right moment.

    5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility.

    7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward
    .

    Ultimate !!!!!


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    Re: need help in positive relationship

    hi vaishu.... dont worry just relax,
    most of us crossed the same problem

    this a suggestion that the way how i recovered me
    just read the book "THE SECRET"

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