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    "non-violence in parenting":

    Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K. Gandhi
    Institute for Non-violence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of
    Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of "non-violence in

    "I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my
    grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South Africa , in the
    middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country and had no
    neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to
    town to visit friends or go to the movies.

    One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference,
    and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a
    list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father
    ask me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car
    serviced. When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ' I will meet
    you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together. '

    After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie
    theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot
    the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage
    and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was
    almost 6:00.

    He anxiously asked me, ' Why were you late? ' I was so ashamed of telling
    him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, ' The car wasn't
    ready, so I had to wait,not realizing that he had already called the garage. When he caught me in the lie, he said:

    ' There' s something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn' t give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it. '

    So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark
    on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered. I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again.

    I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.
    That is the power of non-violence."

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    Re: "non-violence in parenting":

    Hi Suga

    Excellent He is a live example for proving the power of non violence

    Thanks for sharing dear

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