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    Re: Are you a Good Daughter-in-law - அத்தை...........நீங்களே சொல்லுங்கள் ...........நானĮ

    jeyanthi neenga husbands pattri discuss panna arambitha thread evallo spead a poitiruku athe samayathil neenga IL aga arambitha thread evallo slow a poitiruku partheengala


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    Gud thread sis!

    Marriage aana beginning la rombaa inconvenient a feel pannen.. bcoz amma solli solli anupchanga, nee un vaalu thanathellam anga vachikka mudiadhu, romba pesadha, morning seekiram ezhundhakanum.. appadi ippadi nu.... bcoz enga family very social and Bala's family apadiye opposite, romba orthodox..

    nanga inga arattai, paatu nu veettaye rendu paduthuvom, but anga silenta irukum..

    I think first year is very crucial...We have to be open to change, and bend a bit in the way we do things, and really listen a lot instead of talking...A phase to realise that "A happy marriage doesn't just happen, we need to make it happen!"

    Thank God. we mingled well...

    Yes, cooking is very important! en MIL ku en cooking romba pudikum, bcoz nan edhana different-a try pannuven.

    ninga sonna madhiri, namba amma veeta pathi romba pesama irundha nalladhu dhan nan adha practical-a kathukiten

    In laws will be really happy if we consult them and do everything...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Priyakash View Post
    Hi Jeyanthy,
    Indha thread arambithadharkana ungal nokkam (adhan future DIL's kku help panradhu) enakku romba pidichirukku........

    Indha thread paarthavudan immediatea ennoda MIL kku call panniten... Avanga padhari poi "Enna kannu office time la koopitiruka????" nu kettu mudikiradhukku munnadi naan "Laalima naan nalla DIL va...seekiram sollunga??" nu ketten....Avanga kudumbathukke uriya trade mark sirippoda "Yaaru unnai ippadi kettadhu???" nu ketka, naan avangalakku indha thread pathi explain pannen...

    Ippo avanga sonna bathil kku varen....

    1) "Nee romba nalla marumagaldhan...yenna yen paiyanna romba Sandhosama, nimmadhiya vechirukaye nu sonnanga"... Avangaloda kannotathula yendha oru maamiyarum first avargal marumagalidam ethirpaarpadhu idhaithanam... So indha point la naan full mark score pannitadha Laalima sonnanga....

    2) Naan kudumbatha udaikka maatenam...Avanga kaalathukku appuram kooda Sathyan(my BIL), Sugi(my SIL) and Jeeva(Idhu yaarunnu ungalakku theriyum ) inru pol ottrumaya irukka, kandippa yennala yendha prachanaiyum varadhu nu sonnanga....."Atheppadi Laalima ivlo uruthiya solreengannu naan ketten???"...I was really stunned at her answer. She quoted lots of incidents which made her say the above words like.....

    Ennoda cousin kalyana saree vaanga Kanchi ponappo, naan en MIL, SIL and Saranya kka(Co-Sister) kku saree vaangittu vandhadhu....Nethra(my niece) kku kooda azhagana pattu paavadai vaangitu vandhiye nu sonnanga....

    Avanga yenga B'day, anniversary kku wish panna marandhal kooda naan ego paarkama wish paaniduven....

    Idhu madhiri niraya incidents sonnanga...Naan yen stun annena, to me honestly, those things were just insignificant....But andha chinna visayangalukku avangakitta irundhu enakku kidaichadhu "Avangaloda asaikka mudiyadha Nambikkai"....Quite amazing right???? Naan idhai sathiyama yethirpaarkala.....

    "Ivlodhana, illai yedhavadhu vituteengala...Mandaya thatti yosichu paathu sollunga" nu naan ketka, avanga "idhuve Veni(my perimma) innaikku kalaila Nithya(my cousin) engagement la vechu "samandhi, neenga Rasam nalla vaasanaya, supera vepeengalame...Thangam(adhu naandhan) yeppo rasam saapitaalum solluva...yeppadi appadi vekareenga" nu kettanga...So en samayal pugazha parappina unakku naan ithanai solliyachu...Idhukku mela mudiyadhu" nu sollitaanga.....

    p.s:- Enakku time illadhala, matra friends share seithadha padikka mudila:(.. But I'll do it in the next coming days..............





    Priya......as usual you rock.......

    Enga yaarukkavadhu thonicha, udane, MIL ku phone pottu ketkanumnu ( aana ennala ninaichaalum mudiyadhu.....coz...she is no more).

    Yes.......naama expect panna mudiyadha vishayam ellam avangaluku important a thonudhu paarunga......


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    Quote Originally Posted by pooo80 View Post
    jeyanthi neenga husbands pattri discuss panna arambitha thread evallo spead a poitiruku athe samayathil neenga IL aga arambitha thread evallo slow a poitiruku partheengala




    Enaku indha vishayam nalla therinju dhaan, adha first pottenpa.


    Adhu, just sharing the good things.

    But, indha thread la, I wanted to emphasize the factors through which, newly married and going to be married girls, can get some tips, which they may not know.

    ​Any way, thanks for sharing your views also.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deepa bala View Post
    Gud thread sis!

    Marriage aana beginning la rombaa inconvenient a feel pannen.. bcoz amma solli solli anupchanga, nee un vaalu thanathellam anga vachikka mudiadhu, romba pesadha, morning seekiram ezhundhakanum.. appadi ippadi nu.... bcoz enga family very social and Bala's family apadiye opposite, romba orthodox..

    nanga inga arattai, paatu nu veettaye rendu paduthuvom, but anga silenta irukum..

    I think first year is very crucial...We have to be open to change, and bend a bit in the way we do things, and really listen a lot instead of talking...A phase to realise that "A happy marriage doesn't just happen, we need to make it happen!"

    Thank God. we mingled well...

    Yes, cooking is very important! en MIL ku en cooking romba pudikum, bcoz nan edhana different-a try pannuven.

    ninga sonna madhiri, namba amma veeta pathi romba pesama irundha nalladhu dhan nan adha practical-a kathukiten

    In laws will be really happy if we consult them and do everything...




    Deepa......feel very happy to note that you have adjusted with your in laws , very well.

    "A happy marriage doesn't just happen, we need to make it happen!"




    ​What a words are these!!!!! Amazing ......Deepa...... and very much true.

    Jayanthy





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    Hi Jayan ka,
    first of all, thanks for starting this thread ka...
    unga experience really super ka.. very useful tips to the newcomers..


    Quote Originally Posted by jv_66 View Post
    முதலில் எனது அனுபவங்களைக் கூறுகிறேன்.

    ஆம், நான் மிக நல்ல மருமகளாகத்தான் இருந்தேன், இருக்கிறேன்.


    திருமணமாகி மிகப் பெரியக் குடும்பத்தில் நுழையும் போது, மிகவும் பயந்துப் போயிருந்தேன்.


    நானோ ஒரே பெண். என் கணவருக்கோ உடன் பிறந்தவர்கள் 7 பேர். பின்னர் பயமில்லாமல் எப்படி இருக்கும்.


    ஆனால் , என்னுடையப் பிறவிக் குணமான, யாருடனும் அதிகமாகப் பேசாமல் இருப்பது , எனக்கு மிகவும் உதவி புரிந்தது, நான் நல்ல மருமகளாகத் திகழ.


    யாரவது, ஏதாவது கேள்வி கேட்டால் மட்டுமே, நான் வாயைத் திறப்பேன்.


    நமது முதல் நற்குணம் ஆக , புகுந்த வீட்டினர் எதிர்பார்ப்பது எது தெரியுமா ........நாம் நமது பிறந்த வீட்டுப் பெருமையை எப்போதும் போற்றிக் கொண்டு இருக்காமல், ஏன், அதைப் பற்றிப் பேசாமல் இருப்பதையே விரும்புகின்றனர்.


    நான் பேசா மடந்தையாக இருந்ததால், மேற்கூறியதை நான் எப்போதும், இன்றுவரைச் செய்ததில்லை. இதனால், என் புகுந்த வீட்டினர் அனைவருக்கும் என்னை மிகவும் பிடித்து விட்டது, முதலிலேயே.


    மேலும் எப்போதும், சிரித்த முகத்துடனேயே வளைய வருவதால், அனைவர்க்கும் மிகவும் பிடித்து விட்டது.


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    கண்ணனே காட்டினான் கண்ணனே சாற்றினான் கண்ணனே கொலை செய்கின்றான்!!!

    பரித்ராணாய சாதூனாம் விநாசாய சதுஷ்க்ருதாம்
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    Re: Are you a Good Daughter-in-law - அத்தை...........நீங்களே சொல்லுங்கள் ...........நான&

    Hi Viji,
    Kalakkurenga viji...
    Congrats and my wishes for you..


    Quote Originally Posted by vijivedachalam View Post
    hi jeya akka,

    naan firs first en mamiyar veetukku ponapa rombavey home sick ah feel panan................................. because amosphere totally different......so enakku diversion thevai patuthu........ so naan samayal la full concenrate panan......... ungala mathiri avalava pesama amaithiya iruthen( i mean amaithiya irukura mathiri nadichan, vera vazhi)ella velaiyum nanaey entha doub um ketkama senjan, automatic ah en aunty kku enai pidithu vitathu...............................................starting la. pattum padal iruthaley pathi problem ah naam avoid panalam ....................................... but now me and my hubby thaniya irukkom..........but daily avanga enkita phone la pesuvanga.............................................en aunty ku en samayal romba pidikkum.............


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    கண்ணனே காட்டினான் கண்ணனே சாற்றினான் கண்ணனே கொலை செய்கின்றான்!!!

    பரித்ராணாய சாதூனாம் விநாசாய சதுஷ்க்ருதாம்
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    Hi Gayathri,
    Really u r a super daughter-in-law..
    You handled the situation nicely..
    They r very lucky to hav u as their in-law
    ethai kudukkiroma, athaye thirumba peruvom enbatharkku neengal sirantha sandru...
    My best wishes for u and ur family..


    Quote Originally Posted by GayathriArun View Post
    Are you a good daughter-in-law?
    Ivlo kashtamaana questions ellam answer panna mudiyaadhy, Jayanthi!?!? Just Kidding.

    Yes, I am a good daughter-in-law. Unlike Jayanthi and Viji i spoke well with my in laws from the beginning itself. My aunty, uncle and sister in laws liked my cooking. I was very friendly with them. Then as it happens in every other houses i faced some incovenient and embarrasing situations which aroused because of misunderstandings. That was the time i stayed patient enough to tackle the situation. Never argued or claimed that i am right, just kept quiet with a little distance. Performed my tasks and responsobilities perfectly especially in my third sister in laws marriage. Took very good care of my aunty and uncle despite of the issues because i know that they both are really good and caring. I got rid off the fear that my husband will forsake them and gave the hope that we both are there for them. Then everything turned back well as before. Now i am in UAE and visit India once in a year. My aunty is no more, when she was bed ridden she thanked me for being with her and told that she knows well that i will take care of uncle and her 3 daughters well. Now all my three sister in laws and my father in law are okay with me. My uncle comes and stays with us on and off here. I visit them once in a year. I am proud to say that I am a good daughter in law.


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    கண்ணனே காட்டினான் கண்ணனே சாற்றினான் கண்ணனே கொலை செய்கின்றான்!!!

    பரித்ராணாய சாதூனாம் விநாசாய சதுஷ்க்ருதாம்
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    Re: Are you a Good Daughter-in-law - அத்தை...........நீங்களே சொல்லுங்கள் ...........நான&

    Hi Priya,
    Realy u r a "mamiyar mechiya marumagal"
    Happy to know abt this loavable family..
    ithe pol anbudan kadaisi varai vaazha en vaazhthukkal..




    Quote Originally Posted by Priyakash View Post
    Hi Jeyanthy,
    Indha thread arambithadharkana ungal nokkam (adhan future DIL's kku help panradhu) enakku romba pidichirukku........

    Indha thread paarthavudan immediatea ennoda MIL kku call panniten... Avanga padhari poi "Enna kannu office time la koopitiruka????" nu kettu mudikiradhukku munnadi naan "Laalima naan nalla DIL va...seekiram sollunga??" nu ketten....Avanga kudumbathukke uriya trade mark sirippoda "Yaaru unnai ippadi kettadhu???" nu ketka, naan avangalakku indha thread pathi explain pannen...

    Ippo avanga sonna bathil kku varen....

    1) "Nee romba nalla marumagaldhan...yenna yen paiyanna romba Sandhosama, nimmadhiya vechirukaye nu sonnanga"... Avangaloda kannotathula yendha oru maamiyarum first avargal marumagalidam ethirpaarpadhu idhaithanam... So indha point la naan full mark score pannitadha Laalima sonnanga....

    2) Naan kudumbatha udaikka maatenam...Avanga kaalathukku appuram kooda Sathyan(my BIL), Sugi(my SIL) and Jeeva(Idhu yaarunnu ungalakku theriyum ) inru pol ottrumaya irukka, kandippa yennala yendha prachanaiyum varadhu nu sonnanga....."Atheppadi Laalima ivlo uruthiya solreengannu naan ketten???"...I was really stunned at her answer. She quoted lots of incidents which made her say the above words like.....

    Ennoda cousin kalyana saree vaanga Kanchi ponappo, naan en MIL, SIL and Saranya kka(Co-Sister) kku saree vaangittu vandhadhu....Nethra(my niece) kku kooda azhagana pattu paavadai vaangitu vandhiye nu sonnanga....

    Avanga yenga B'day, anniversary kku wish panna marandhal kooda naan ego paarkama wish paaniduven....

    Idhu madhiri niraya incidents sonnanga...Naan yen stun annena, to me honestly, those things were just insignificant....But andha chinna visayangalukku avangakitta irundhu enakku kidaichadhu "Avangaloda asaikka mudiyadha Nambikkai"....Quite amazing right???? Naan idhai sathiyama yethirpaarkala.....

    "Ivlodhana, illai yedhavadhu vituteengala...Mandaya thatti yosichu paathu sollunga" nu naan ketka, avanga "idhuve Veni(my perimma) innaikku kalaila Nithya(my cousin) engagement la vechu "samandhi, neenga Rasam nalla vaasanaya, supera vepeengalame...Thangam(adhu naandhan) yeppo rasam saapitaalum solluva...yeppadi appadi vekareenga" nu kettanga...So en samayal pugazha parappina unakku naan ithanai solliyachu...Idhukku mela mudiyadhu" nu sollitaanga.....

    p.s:- Enakku time illadhala, matra friends share seithadha padikka mudila:(.. But I'll do it in the next coming days..............


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    Hi Deepa,
    "A happy marriage doesn't just happen, we need to make it happen!"
    really super lines..
    It is easy to say but difficult to follow.. But you did it.. Very happy that you ppl mingled well.. Heartiest wishes for u and ur family..


    Quote Originally Posted by deepa bala View Post
    Gud thread sis!

    Marriage aana beginning la rombaa inconvenient a feel pannen.. bcoz amma solli solli anupchanga, nee un vaalu thanathellam anga vachikka mudiadhu, romba pesadha, morning seekiram ezhundhakanum.. appadi ippadi nu.... bcoz enga family very social and Bala's family apadiye opposite, romba orthodox..

    nanga inga arattai, paatu nu veettaye rendu paduthuvom, but anga silenta irukum..

    I think first year is very crucial...We have to be open to change, and bend a bit in the way we do things, and really listen a lot instead of talking...A phase to realise that "A happy marriage doesn't just happen, we need to make it happen!"

    Thank God. we mingled well...

    Yes, cooking is very important! en MIL ku en cooking romba pudikum, bcoz nan edhana different-a try pannuven.

    ninga sonna madhiri, namba amma veeta pathi romba pesama irundha nalladhu dhan nan adha practical-a kathukiten

    In laws will be really happy if we consult them and do everything...


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