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Overcoming In-laws Problems


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    Overcoming In-laws Problems

    Overcoming In-laws Problems in Marriage


    The problem of in-laws is a universal problem in marriage. This problem has scattered great number of families. The problem has been cog in the wheel of progress of great number of families. The husbands and wives that want their families to move forward must understand how to handle the problems of in-laws.
    Causes of In-Laws’ Problems
    Experience has shown that the problem of in-laws is always between the mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. Conflicts between other in-laws and the wife are not common and they are manageable. The following are the causes of the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    1. Wife competing with her mother-in-law for the favour and attention of her husband.

    2. Feeling of insecurity by wife in facing her new roles.


    3. The mother-in-law being threatened of losing the object of her admiration and means of living.


    4. Inability of mother-in-law to express her feelings when offended by her daughter-in-law.


    5 Imposing the values or ideas of the families of the parents-in-law on the new family.


    6. Inability of the wife to bear children within 2 years of marriage.

    -CONTD....



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    Re: Overcoming In-laws Problems

    How to Avoid In-Laws’ Problems
    It is better to avoid the problem of in-laws than to trying to remove or cope with it. If this problem is to be avoided, each party involved must play well his/her part in the fear of God.
    Advice to Wife

    If you want to overcome in-laws’ problems as a wife, you must do the following:

    1. You must assure your mother-in-law of your loyalty to her,

    2. You must be comfortable with the presence of your mother-in-law in your home,

    3. You should not be selfish,

    4. You should be hardworking and creative,

    5. You should maintain a good and regular flow of communication with your mother-in-law,

    6. You should accept her godly counsels,. In case her counsel is not acceptable, you should reject it gently and in love.

    7. You should treat your husband’s relations like your own relations.
    8. You should be wise in the way you relate with your husband in the presence of your in –laws.


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    Advice to Mother-in-law

    As every woman aspires to see her grand children, it means we are all praying to be mothers-in-law. But if you want to have peace with your daughter-in-law so that you can have access to your grand children, you must take note of the following advice:

    1. You should know the Lord and hold on to Him in all situations,

    2. You should allow your daughter-in-law to know your God through you,

    3. You should express your gratitude to your daughter-in-law,

    4. You should act selflessly towards her,

    5 You should not transfer your bitterness to her,

    6. You should show interest in what she is doing, . Treat her as your
    own daughter who is in a learning process.

    7. You should offer godly counsel to her,
    In case she does not take your counsel, be patient with her.


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    Re: Overcoming In-laws Problems

    Advice to Couples


    Avoiding in-laws’ problems is a joint effort of both husband and wife. As a couple, you must observe the following points to allow peace to reign in your family:


    1.
    You must observe the basic laws of marriage.

    2.You must resolve the conflicts between your spouse and your parents.

    3.
    You must show appreciation to parents of both sides.


    4.
    You must have good relationship with your spouse.


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    You must protect the privacy of your marriage. You should not expose your spouse’s weaknesses and mistakes to your parents.


    6.You must resist interference from their parents gently and firmly.


    7.
    You must see and treat the two families as one. You must do whatever you want to do for your relations jointly. However, you must avoid hypocrisy and sentiment.





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    Re: Overcoming In-laws Problems

    How to Cope With In-Laws’ Problems
    In some cases, all efforts to avoid in-laws problem may prove abortive. In such a case, as a virtuous wife you should device a shock absorbing mechanism to cope with the problems. You should follow the Biblical principles as highlighted below:

    1.
    You must avoid retaliation,

    2.
    You must show love to whoever that persecutes you,

    3.
    You must do well unto everybody,

    4.
    You must always work for peace with everybody,

    5.
    You must control your tongue,

    6.
    You must be prayerful, John


    You must protect your wife from aggression from your relations.
    You must put your wife in her rightful position and stand by her at all times; and you must be watchful.
    You must resolve any conflict between your wife and your relations amicably as soon as it is noticed


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    Re: Overcoming In-laws Problems

    Useful & needed advice Viji... thanks .


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    Re: Overcoming In-laws Problems

    good tips viji....



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