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    Kindly Give advise on this issue

    Hi Friends,

    One of my friend Mahalakshmi, She is from a poor family. Her father is not working from his marriage time. Mahalakshmi has been brought up by her mom only. Maha completed her degree in a college. She betrayed by a Man called Shyam. Then she slowly forget all the problems and got registered in 2007(only they registered not got married properly) to a guy named prajan. When at the time of registration she told all the truths about her and Shyam's Cheating. At that time prajan told no problem. But till now he not tied Mangal sutra(they also had physical relation ship) for her and he is ignoring maha. Now she is not working anywhere. Because of her faith on prajan she waited till(she is now 29 years old & she is not willing to have another life partner). Kindly advise me to what i want to suggest her.

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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    Swetha,

    Sad to know about your friend's situation.

    But this is not a big issue, because, she has married him legally. So, she need not worry.

    Tying mangal sutra is not so important, when compared with legal marriage.

    I would like to know, whether, that Prajan is living with her all the time, and whether Maha is having the REGISTERED MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE , safely with her.

    If these things are in favorable with her, she need not worry about the other things like Mangal sutra and all.

    If the other criteria above mentioned are OK, then, she can tie one mangal sutra , herself, just for the society and her security from others.

    Please ask her to find one job immediately, for her security.

    IDLE MIND IS DEVIL'S WORKSHOP.

    The matter in which your friend is stuck, is mentioned by me in the following thread of mine.

    You may go through this.

    How to run a smooth family

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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    hi swetha,
    first i appreciate ur helping mind..
    still we the girls struggling while choosing the life..
    first ask ur friend maha to be bold and confident..
    naama bayapadarathunaala than intha mathri pasanga la yemathuranga.. u give her moral support.. first ask her to go for a job... prajan kuda regiser marriage panitta piragu yethukku bayapaduranga...
    ask her to have a copy of register marriage certificate and a copy of photo(for safety purpose)
    age 29 ana ena pa.. innum vazhkaiyile avanga saathika vendiyathu niriya irukkunu sollunga... thali katita avar ivangala vittu pogamatarunu maha feel panranga pola.. so first u(swetha) try to communicate prajan and discuss about this ....an take the final decision...

    all the best.. god will bless u maha

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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    Quote Originally Posted by vijivedachalam View Post
    hi swetha,
    first i appreciate ur helping mind..
    still we the girls struggling while choosing the life..
    first ask ur friend maha to be bold and confident..
    naama bayapadarathunaala than intha mathri pasanga la yemathuranga.. u give her moral support.. first ask her to go for a job... prajan kuda regiser marriage panitta piragu yethukku bayapaduranga...
    ask her to have a copy of register marriage certificate and a copy of photo(for safety purpose)
    age 29 ana ena pa.. innum vazhkaiyile avanga saathika vendiyathu niriya irukkunu sollunga... thali katita avar ivangala vittu pogamatarunu maha feel panranga pola.. so first u(swetha) try to communicate prajan and discuss about this ....an take the final decision...

    all the best.. god will bless u maha

    regards,
    viji
    Thank You Viji, Actually Prajan is not a man of nature. He will not give a little bit smile on others. Always he is like a devil. We cant discuss with him. We will try to give a hold to maha. We will trust god and friends on this issue.


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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    Its atrocious that Prajan registered marriage legally in 2007 and he hasn't tied the knot yet. Cannot take this cool like,"why to tie a knot while legally registered". Since Maha is his wife legally and also she is willing to get the mangal sutra tied by prajan, he must do it since its his wife's wish. To be very frank, if he hesitates to tie the knot then its damn sure that he is not straight forward and planning something behind.

    Your friend Maha needs a job now. She must have the self esteem. She should demand him to tie the knot and if he says "no" she must force him to say the truth and should not show any mercy to him in this regard. If he is a good guy then its fine to depend and rely on him completely. Definitely a woman can find out whether her man is truthful to her or not though cant predict exactly everything in his mind. But now Maha has had a suspect on him (she must have some valid reason to suspect him) and shared this with you, this itself says that she feels insecured. You have mentiond that Prajan is ignoring Maha, this is more important thing to consider. She needs to find the reason by asking him directly and decide upon his answer. Its good for her to find a job now. Either Maha or you or we cannot say anything more without knowing the reason that why he is not interested in tying the knot so your friend must try to know it and moreover if this questions is answered then all her problem will come to end, deciding upon it.

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    dont worry swetha, trust god, surely god will help us.. i too pray the god for maha.. surely maha will lead a happy and prosperous life..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sreeswethaa View Post
    Thank You Viji, Actually Prajan is not a man of nature. He will not give a little bit smile on others. Always he is like a devil. We cant discuss with him. We will try to give a hold to maha. We will trust god and friends on this issue.


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    Hi Swetha, We have to pray the God for the better and glorious married life for your friend Mahalakshmi in this moment. I appreciate your helping mind but the God only has to help in this regard

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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    Quote Originally Posted by sumitra View Post
    Hi Swetha, We have to pray the God for the better and glorious married life for your friend Mahalakshmi in this moment. I appreciate your helping mind but the God only has to help in this regard
    Thank you for your appreciation. We all pray for her. God only do some magic in her life.

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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    Hi Swetha,
    In regards to your friend's problem, marriage by registration is valid in the eyes of law. Firstly try talking to Prajan to know he has got to say. If he does not get agreed with any compromise. Then your friend can invoke sec 9 of Hindu marriage act 1955(i.e she can file a petition for Restitution of conjugal rights). through some legal aid as u mentioned that she 's poor.

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    Re: Kindly Give advise on this issue

    She should file a case against the guy that left her and claim for monthly expenses and she has legal right to do so. Its very difficult for a woman to survive if she has no job with her.


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