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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Hi jayanthy ka... what u said is correct. adjustment is most important one. first namma ithu namma kudumbamnu mentally fix agitomna, nammaku problem illa. ego paarkama vittu kodukanum.


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Quote Originally Posted by ramyas View Post
    Hi jayanthy ka... what u said is correct. adjustment is most important one. first namma ithu namma kudumbamnu mentally fix agitomna, nammaku problem illa. ego paarkama vittu kodukanum.

    Very true Ramya


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    hi jaya......... adjus.... pannurathe oru periya vishayamaathaan irukkum.........

    ungaloda karuththukkal, nlakashmi karuththukkal ellaame unnmai...........

    thanzzzzzzzzz for sharing.............

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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    One of the main key is.. Giving space to all the family members. .. After marriage also your husband is still his mother's son, his sisters brothers and his father's son. So when your MIL and his son(your husband) are spending some quality time either for a drive like temple, restaurant or just talking in the house.. Just give the space... You can finish your other work in that time... by leaving them alone.. IF your MIL want to feed his son..(ooti viduratu).. or serve food to her son during lunch or etc.. Just leave her to do it.. Thats her insecurity thats showing... It will subside in a very short time...when she feels secure.. Of course as a NEW wife, you will have that small desire to do all the things for your husband, but if you think your MIL in a positive way, then you cannot see her as your MIL but you can see her as Only a Mother who is trying very hard to let go of his son... Thats a Mother's feeling.. Think that you will also feel the same way when you have your kids..So you developing a small grudge will stop in the very beginning... Just give the time.. Dont ask immediately, that why the girl is also leaving her mother and family .. but that how girls are designed... they are multi taskers but boys are not... Girls can handle and make herself comfortable in any situation ....

    So giving space is the important thing...

    and one more... eppayume whether you are at home or talking through phone to your inlaws.. saaptingala nu oru vaarthai kelunga... it really does magic...


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    This thread is going to be wonderful as it is a very important pact of everyone's life..


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Quote Originally Posted by nlakshmi View Post
    One of the main key is.. Giving space to all the family members. .. After marriage also your husband is still his mother's son, his sisters brothers and his father's son. So when your MIL and his son(your husband) are spending some quality time either for a drive like temple, restaurant or just talking in the house.. Just give the space... You can finish your other work in that time... by leaving them alone.. IF your MIL want to feed his son..(ooti viduratu).. or serve food to her son during lunch or etc.. Just leave her to do it.. Thats her insecurity thats showing... It will subside in a very short time...when she feels secure.. Of course as a NEW wife, you will have that small desire to do all the things for your husband, but if you think your MIL in a positive way, then you cannot see her as your MIL but you can see her as Only a Mother who is trying very hard to let go of his son... Thats a Mother's feeling.. Think that you will also feel the same way when you have your kids..So you developing a small grudge will stop in the very beginning... Just give the time.. Dont ask immediately, that why the girl is also leaving her mother and family .. but that how girls are designed... they are multi taskers but boys are not... Girls can handle and make herself comfortable in any situation ....

    So giving space is the important thing...

    and one more... eppayume whether you are at home or talking through phone to your inlaws.. saaptingala nu oru vaarthai kelunga... it really does magic...
    thanks for the tips mam............

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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Lakshmi Madam,

    "Giving space to all the family members" its true.
    Even after 10 years of married life, I feel like i am still a learner after seeing yours and Jayanthi mam's posts.
    Keep up your great job, both of you. Its a gift for us to have such word of advise from you people. Thanks.

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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    I also learn from all your other answers.. When we read all other experiences, when can find different kind of approach to the solutions......
    Quote Originally Posted by GayathriArun View Post
    Lakshmi Madam,

    "Giving space to all the family members" its true.
    Even after 10 years of married life, I feel like i am still a learner after seeing yours and Jayanthi mam's posts.
    Keep up your great job, both of you. Its a gift for us to have such word of advise from you people. Thanks.



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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Quote Originally Posted by infaa View Post
    hi jaya......... adjus.... pannurathe oru periya vishayamaathaan irukkum.........

    ungaloda karuththukkal, nlakashmi karuththukkal ellaame unnmai...........

    thanzzzzzzzzz for sharing.............

    ​Thanks Infaa

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    Quote Originally Posted by nlakshmi View Post
    One of the main key is.. Giving space to all the family members. .. After marriage also your husband is still his mother's son, his sisters brothers and his father's son. So when your MIL and his son(your husband) are spending some quality time either for a drive like temple, restaurant or just talking in the house.. Just give the space... You can finish your other work in that time... by leaving them alone.. IF your MIL want to feed his son..(ooti viduratu).. or serve food to her son during lunch or etc.. Just leave her to do it.. Thats her insecurity thats showing... It will subside in a very short time...when she feels secure.. Of course as a NEW wife, you will have that small desire to do all the things for your husband, but if you think your MIL in a positive way, then you cannot see her as your MIL but you can see her as Only a Mother who is trying very hard to let go of his son... Thats a Mother's feeling.. Think that you will also feel the same way when you have your kids..So you developing a small grudge will stop in the very beginning... Just give the time.. Dont ask immediately, that why the girl is also leaving her mother and family .. but that how girls are designed... they are multi taskers but boys are not... Girls can handle and make herself comfortable in any situation ....

    So giving space is the important thing...

    and one more... eppayume whether you are at home or talking through phone to your inlaws.. saaptingala nu oru vaarthai kelunga... it really does magic...



    Arumai ......Lakshmi......arumaya sollitinga......kandippa neenga solradhu maadhiri GIVING SPACE romba romba avasiyam.

    ​Please share more.

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