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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Dear Jeyanthi, Lakshmi and Gayathri... you all are brought out very good points, tips and tricks to run smooth family. I admired all of your replies. Each of you said various points in various views. This thread is simply superb. hats off to you jeyanthi for bringing out such a good topic to discuss and share about the needful things for living a happy life. Good work dears. keep it up.


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Thanks Deva sakthi,
    All the very best for your Married life
    Quote Originally Posted by devsakthi View Post
    Really you are superb lakshmi mam. your points are crystal clear.

    //One key tip to the wives is, Always underplay your intelligence when it comes to your family//

    //you were treated as princess in your parents family.. Remember princess doesnot have any responsibilties.. but in your husbands family you will be the queen of the family... Queen does have umpteen responsibilities..//

    love these points a lot. your advice is very very helpful for the persons like me. thank you so much


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    This is the main key... In one point of time.. you may feel bored/suffocated by doing the routines.. at that time... at that time.. giving space will just avoid lot of bitter circumstances between couples or families...etc...

    and this is just my experience not My advice.. I too have to learn a lot and learning a lot from people around me...
    Quote Originally Posted by devsakthi View Post
    Giving space to all the family members - some wome never think of this . one my cousin always troubles due to this problem. my aunty also adviced her alot, but she is not understanding. she always stands in her point. I will try to make her to read all your advice. If she read and understands the secrets of happy married life, i wil be very happy.


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Another important thing to be followed for running a smooth family.

    Never be a NAGGING wife or NAGGING mother.
    No body likes this.

    Tell them one or two times. Not more than that.

    When they do a mistake, in spite of your cautioning about the deed, they will understand themselves and will not repeat it.

    Whenever, the family members are telling anything, do not argue immediately. It may not be convincing you. But, you may tell the reasons for your objections,a little later, in a soft way. This may reduce the fight with other members.

    ALWAYS REMEMBER that SOUND IS PRODUCED ONLY WHEN TWO HANDS ARE CLAPPED.




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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Quote Originally Posted by jv_66 View Post
    Another important thing to be followed for running a smooth family.

    Never be a NAGGING wife or NAGGING mother.
    No body likes this.

    Tell them one or two times. Not more than that.

    When they do a mistake, in spite of your cautioning about the deed, they will understand themselves and will not repeat it.

    Whenever, the family members are telling anything, do not argue immediately. It may not be convincing you. But, you may tell the reasons for your objections,a little later, in a soft way. This may reduce the fight with other members.

    ALWAYS REMEMBER that SOUND IS PRODUCED ONLY WHEN TWO HANDS ARE CLAPPED.


    Very true Sis...

    Nagging just leads to irritation and anger.

    Practical experience teaches more than advice. So tell them once or twice, but leave the decision to their choice. They'll learn from their mistakes or successes.

    Sometimes silence is better than argument...

    Thanks for the advice..


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    When you come to the MONEY MATTERS, Ladies are the key persons, who can BUILD or RUIN the family.

    We can take the control in our hands, after some years of marriage.

    Please do not buy unnecessary things. It may be dresses, furniture, house hold things, jewellery or any other thing.

    You may buy whichever and whatever is barely necessary for the house.

    Do not get lured by the advertisements, by the neighbors , or by other relatives.

    It is your family and you need to BUILD it strongly.

    Try to save as much money as possible.

    You may face any kind of problem, in your future, and this money WILL save you during that time.


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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Quote Originally Posted by sujibenzic View Post
    Very true Sis...

    Nagging just leads to irritation and anger.

    Practical experience teaches more than advice. So tell them once or twice, but leave the decision to their choice. They'll learn from their mistakes or successes.

    Sometimes silence is better than argument...

    Thanks for the advice..


    ​Yes Sujana.....this is very much true.

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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    I was bit busy with some personal works.. but நான் வரதுக்குள்ள இப்படி கலக்குறீங்க... happy to read all your inputs here.

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    Re: How to run a smooth family

    Quote Originally Posted by Rudhraa View Post
    I was bit busy with some personal works.. but நான் வரதுக்குள்ள இப்படி கலக்குறீங்க... happy to read all your inputs here.


    ​Thanks Rudhraa

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    Re: How to run a smooth family


    When you are away from your in - laws, please talk to them daily, which will make them very happy.

    Try to participate in all the important family functions, along with your children.

    In case, if you find NON - COMPATIBILITY with your in - laws, when you are residing with them,PLEASE DO NOT SEND THEM TO THE OLD AGE HOMES.

    Instead, you can try this solution.

    Since they may also need privacy, find a separate house for them to reside, which SHOULD be very nearer to your house.

    In case if you both are working,You may leave your children there, after their school hours, so that both your in-laws and your children, will not loose the mutual affection .

    You can take care of their health, and visit them daily.

    When your children are in teen-age, both your children and your in-laws, may have tuff times to cope up with.

    This may be avoided, with the above suggestion.

    Your husband may explain the situation to his parents.


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