How social media is affecting your relationships and sex life

Before the days of Facebook, Twitter, and blogs, our knowledge of people’s intimate lives was limited. Either the curtains were closed or we could only see what was on center stage. Today, it seems that not only is the curtain always open and there’s always stage visibility, but we have a continuous backstage pass as well. This backstage pass translates into getting updated details on what’s going on in peoples’ kitchens, bathrooms, bank accounts, and bedrooms, all the time.

And it’s taking a toll on the ability to feel satisfied with our own lives.

It is making us feel insecure about ourselves, our possessions, relationships and most importantly, our sex lives. And the irony is that it’s often caused by superficial images that don’t tell the whole story of what’s really going on behind the toothy grins, exotic vacations, and intense public displays of affection.

Social media doesn’t paint the real picture
. For some, it seems like everyone but them is enjoying a satisfying sex life and has a blissful, loving relationship without issues. It’s hard to imagine that that couple down the block hasn’t had sex in months because of sexual dysfunction; after all, they seem to look so perfectly happy in their Facebook pictures. Or that beautiful co-worker goes to bed depressed every night crying that she’s single, even though she’s always blogging about her constant flow of hot dates.

Relationships are complicated and people are complicated, but there’s no disclaimer in social media reminding you that you are not seeing the real feelings and the real challenges. Consequently, you see your friends’ lives on your timeline, compare their ‘outsides’ with your ‘insides’ and fear that you’re missing out on all the fun.

Social Media is like starring in your own reality show
Essentially, social media has allowed any person to become the star of their own reality show. To the viewer, it seems real, it looks real, and it sounds real, but it’s still what you’re seeing only when the camera is rolling. And at least when it comes to watching celebrity reality shows, there is some recognition that they are acting or that the show is unofficially scripted to ensure there is appealing drama.

However, when it comes to being a viewer of your friend’s ‘reality show’ in social media, it can be more convincing. They’re not as far off as celebrities are. You don’t suspect they’re acting or that they’re being coached by a director. You can relate to them, you look at them as in your league. Their stories are more believable. And you want to believe those stories can happen for you as well. They can, and perhaps they will, but the image in front of you is still but an image.

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