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5 tips for apologizing to your partner


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    5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    Learn to own up to your part in disagreements and to say you're sorry in a way that's genuine and meaningful.

    Even the best of relationships aren't free of misunderstandings. The good news is that, if handled properly, misunderstandings can often be resolved simply by saying sorry, Before sitting down for a face-to-face talk, though, it's important to plan out your apology.

    1. Overcome feelings of embarrassment
    Approaching your spouse and owning up to your mistake takes courage.

    Apologizing puts you in a vulnerable place, which can make it easy to put off addressing the topic.

    Don't let feelings of embarrassment stop you from getting something off your chest.

    "When we are embarrassed we want nothing more than to forget or avoid the cause of our embarrassment,".

    "Having to apologize means potentially opening the door for a conversation about the embarrassing topic. It's important to recognize that, regardless of how embarrassing a situation might be, avoidance is not going to make it go away."

    "The most effective way to get past an embarrassing issue is to repair whatever damage is done and move on,"

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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    2. Be honest and speak from your heart

    If you are genuinely sorry, allow your feelings to show by speaking your mind.

    If you think too much about what your spouse wants to hear, your apology won't be as honest.

    "The most effective apologies are the ones where the recipient understands and believes the message,"

    "The more complex, vague or subtle an apology is, the more likely the recipient will either misunderstand or not believe the person that is apologizing."

    Keep it simple and be honest. It might be a difficult conversation to have, but as long as you be yourself, that honesty should come naturally.

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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    3. Adopt positive body language

    Even before you speak, your body language will say a lot.

    Avoid defensive body language such as crossed arms and tense shoulders, and avoid fidgeting, which will make you appear distracted.

    Making eye contact will especially go a long way. "There's a reason for the old saying 'The eyes are windows to the soul'".

    "Eye gazing for humans is an important and primal form of connection, so be brave and look the person in the eyes when you offer your apology."

    This might be especially difficult if you're feeling insecure, but that eye contact will let your spouse know that you mean what you're saying.

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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    4. Don't get defensive

    The point of your apology is to repair the issue, not open up another argument. Try to resist the urge to justify your actions.

    "When apologizing, we often start defending ourselves at the same time,".

    "An effective apology does not follow with ‘but.' For example, 'I'm sorry, but you shouldn't have said this or that.'"

    "As tempting as it is to explain yourself, you will be much more effective at repairing your relationship - which is the point of the apology in the first place -- by letting the apology stand without all the hedging and blaming," she explains.

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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    5. Come up with a plan to get past the issue

    Your apology will certainly help your marriage continue growing in the best way it can, but be aware that it won't "cancel out" your action.

    "Forgiveness does not mean forgetting,". "After an apology, we often need to engage in activities or interactions designed to restore positivity and trust in a relationship."

    After you apologize, discuss some ways you and your spouse can move past the issue to continue on to your best future together. Ask your partner what he or she needs from you and come up with a plan.

    It may be something as simple as agreeing to speak more regularly about your feelings.

    We all make mistakes. Handling them properly may be difficult, but it's a way of honouring your marriage and ensuring that you and your spouse have a healthy future together.

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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    Not only for partner it will be immense help to maintain all the relationship...

    Thanks a lot for sharing with us... few things i must to change after reading this...


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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    Such an useful sharing Viji. Will be very helpful for all.

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    Re: 5 tips for apologizing to your partner

    yes everything is right...but everything works except on when it is needed....


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