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    Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    Both husband and wife will be very much excited , once they enter into the new married life. There would be lots and lots of expectations and at the same time, there would be some fears having heard about the experiences of others.


    Initially, both of you would be adjusting to attract each other . Later this may diminish.

    This should not happen. The same adjustment should be consistent throughout your married life.

    Letís see few tips for the wives through which, they can have a very good understanding with their husband.


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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    1. First of all, even if you are highly educated or earning more salary than him, never show your ego over this. This may create a very big rift and create inferirority complex to him. Even if ever he feels for this, you may console him and soothe him by words, that you will never have any superiority complex over this and act accordingly.

    2. Try to change your wishes according to him. It will be well and good, if you change his wishes as yours. Even if you are not able to change yourself, atleast don’t compel him to follow your wishes. This will, by itself happen in few more years of married life. By spending most of the time with him, both of you will start adjusting to other’s wishes.

    3. If he wants to watch any programmes of his choice, you can also watch the same and have a healthy discussion over the programmes. Even if you are not interested in Sports or Politics, if you happen to watch along with him and start discussing, he will surely wish to explain them to you and in future, you will be the main person,with whom he wishes to discuss the matters. He will also have a good opinion that you are very well understanding his choices.

    4. Atleast do not irritate him by changing the channels while he is watching it with much interest. You can continue with some other works during this time. If you follow this, he will also allow you to watch the programmes of your choice.

    5. Again, if he wants to go for a movie or visit any other place of his choice, you may accept it immediately . The next time,, he will also accept your choice.

    6. Never compare him with his friends or any other relative, regarding his educational qualifications or the current job.

    7. You can help him in his daily duties by keeping everything ready for him before going to job. You can also train him to collect everything in one place, so that nothing will be left behind. Also train him to keep things in its original place. Please do not scold him initially. Even if he is not keeping them, you can keep them in it;’s original place, through which he will also get practised to it.


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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    8. Please do not talk ill of him, mainly in front of others. This will create a very big rift and he will also feel inferiror.Even if he is not good at doing anything properly, never talk ill of him regarding this. Instead ,you can ask him to change his way of living, when you are talking personally. You should not talk about this always. He might get irritated. In front of others, talk only the good things about him.

    9. Discuss everything with him. Please do not hide anything from him. Later this will create the loss of confidence in you.

    10. If he likes to start any new ventures, please do encourage him initially. Never discourage him. But also don’t forget to discuss the Pros and Cons of that venture, so that he will also understand about them.

    11. Always be a good adviser to him.

    12. Even if you want him to do anything of your choice, do not insist or compel about this. Just tell him that by following this, it may be beneficial. If he is restricting it, do hear to the points without any fight. Later ,you may explain and discuss.

    13. Never create any new tension for him.Try to be calm, when he is under any tension and try to console and soothe him , which he needs the most at that time, from his beloved one.This will ease the situation.

    14. Whenever possible, and whatever the age be, utter the magical word “ I love you” personally. This will surely build the confidence in you both and the building of your married life will become more stronger.

    15. It is not enough if you utter these words, but also show your love and care in each and every deed.


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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    16. He will always need your motherly care and never deny this to him.

    17. The most important point to be followed by the couple is, they should never go to bed with a fighting mood. Before going to bed, you ought to resolve your issues,how big they may be.

    18. When he is shouting in anger, never back answer immediately. Be calm for sometime. Immediately give him some water. By this time, he might cooldown. Now answer your point of view about that matter.

    19. You can very well finish your fighting, even if he is the originator of the fight.He will be very much convinced and will surely reciprocate in future.

    20. Both of you should learn to forgive each other.

    21. Then and there, go for outings and relax yourselves from your routine work.

    22. Do not spend much on unnecessary things like buying lots of dresses, ornaments, furnitures or any household things which may be a waste of money and occupy the house unnecessarily. This may irritate him.


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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    23. Never be in the habit of borrowing money for your day to day living. Please always follow a simple living with the money you have.

    24. Do not always talk ill about his parents or siblings, which may irritate him. Atleast for few years of marriage, you should not talk ill about them. Later, if you have real problems with them, little by little, you can tell him , so that he would also realize the situation.And never compare your parents or siblings with his.

    25. Gift equally to his parents and siblings as you like to do for yours.

    26. Never talk about his bad qualities to your children. They may disrespect him in future.

    27. Never lend or borrow any money to or from the neighbors without his knowledge.

    28. Never be intimate with any of his male friends. Do not entertain or encourage them in his absence.

    29. Take care of him totally, when he is suffering from ill health or any other loss in his career.

    30. You should never try to dominate him directly. By seeking his advice for everything, you should intimate him that he is the head of your family, which gives much pleasure to him.It is for sure, he would reciprocate the same.

    31. Another most important one to be followed is, if suppose you have any dissatisfaction about his sexual approach, you should never tease about this to him or say to him about this bluntly. Instead, you can tell him very softly, the way which you like it. He will surely understand and change his approach. Please keep in mind, that If he is teased or a blunt approach, he will surely be mentally affected and this may also ruin his whole life.

    32. A very simple idea to talk with him and share all your views. This, is you both may strictly follow to share the tea time both in the morning and evening (if possible) and talk all the matters that happened on that day. You can suggest him and get suggestions from him on all the problems you face. During this time, you can politely tell him to avoid any other distractions like TV, newspaper and just listen to you for some time, say half an hour or so. By this, you will also be satisfied that he is listening to your words and will also have the pleasure in talking with him , heartily.





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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    So, whatever the situation may be, only ADJUSTMENT is the key word of successful married life and it is always in the hands of the wife. Always keep in mind, that a woman can build or destroy the family by her deeds.

    By following these tips, you are going to be the best wife for your husband and you are going to lead a wonderful understanding married life.


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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    Thanks for sharing this kaa.....superb guidelines kaa....

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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    Nice thread with useful tips ka...

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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    ​Thanks friends

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    Re: Tips to have a good relation / understanding with your husband

    thanks for your advice

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