How to Hug and Hug aversion

Hugs are an important expression of affection. By hugging someone, you remind them that you care about them and support them. Not only being supportive, but you can hug your boyfriend or girlfriend. Hugs are easy but like we said it's not always easy; to hug you need to be friends or more, then smile at the person and hug them. If it is a boy/girl and you have a different gender you have to be in a very good relationship. Just take it slow and steady

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Approach the person. It will be easy. Depending on the person's relationship to you, you might want to approach differently
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Approach kindly, but not too emotionally.

  • Friend Hug (girls):
  • Approach caringly, sometimes humorously, and smile.
  • Friend Hug (guys):
  • Approach genuinely, smile sweetly and if he is hugging another just make it obvious you're uncomfortable and he'll feel you deserve a hug too
  • Crush Hug:
  • Approach carefully, but do not seem shy. Smile slightly and perhaps say a caring word or two.
  • Lover Hug:
  • It doesn't matter who starts this; either can make it just as romantic. When approaching, put your hands on their shoulders and look them in the eyes. Say you love them, how much you care for them, and how much you are loving every second with them. Then fall into each other and hug with all your heart.

Embrace. Lean forward and wrap your arms around the person.

  • Family Hug:
  • You can keep talking when hugging; it will not ruin the momentum. Where you place your hands is not important; the hugged won't think it over too much. Press gently; it is not necessary to have head-contact. Stroke your hands quickly across the top of the hugged's back. Smile when letting go
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  • Friend Hug (girls):
  • Close your eyes and think about how much you love your friend when hugging. Press as much as you feel like. (But don't squish!) Do not clap the hugged on the shoulders or such; some girls think you don't like them if you do it that way.
  • Friend Hug (guys):
  • Embrace strongly, and clap each other on the top of your backs. If it's an emotional moment, keep in the hugged position for a brief moment and do not clap each others backs.
  • Crush Hug:
  • Press the hugged warmly towards you. If you are a man, her arms should be around your neck, and you should be embracing her around the waist. When pressing her against you, you can lift her up a bit, pressing her chest and upper stomach against yours. Keep it in that position for a while, and then let go. Look her in the eyes when you separate and continue the conversation naturally. If you are the woman, put your arms behind his neck and press your chest lightly onto his chest.
  • Lover Hug:
  • 1) Males: Carefully sliding both your hands down from her shoulders, put them on her waist and slide them around her lower back. Put your head on her shoulder and press her towards you for as long as you like. If you want to, you can give her a small massage with your hands, and try to warm her. When separating, you can look into her eyes, smile genuinely and, if the situation is fitting, kiss her like you mean it and include some hair massage.
  • 2) Females: Extend your arms toward him and hold them around his neck and shoulders. Lean as close as possible and press your torso against his. In situations of extreme intimacy, interlocking your leg in his is appropriate. Avoid holding your arms below his shoulders and/or embracing strongly and tensely, even if you're about the same height as him. It might seem weird but it'll work!

3.Don't hug too tightly. The best way to judge how tightly or loosely to hug is to let whomever you're hugging indicate what they want by how hard they squeeze. If they are soft, be soft back; if they like bear hugs and squeeze tightly, hug back the same way (but don't suffocate him/her).

4.Don't let go too early. A hug is a powerful way to communicate your caring for another person, as it can feel great and greatly improve one's mood. If someone hugs you, they may want a long, loving hug (maybe they are upset or down), so just go along with it and hug them until they let go or loosen their hold. If you try to end it early, it may seem awkward for both of you.

  • A good approach no matter what your relationship with the person you'll be hugging is...walk up to them from a few (maybe 3) feet away, arms open. When you get to them, wrap your arms around approximately their midsection. Hold for a few seconds, then let go.

Embrace aversion
is a slightly uncommon thing in today's world, where everyone likes to clink their glasses and plant air kisses. So when someone hates to get that close to a person, it creates a distance which ends up in social ramifications. Refusing to hug somebody can create a slight riff in a social gathering. Psychological explanation is that such people are scared of intimacy. "I have a friend who hates hugging people because she thinks there's unnecessary touching," says Shalini Rao. "Even when close friends hug her, she keeps an uncomfortable distance between her hugs. Its weird but I guess it's just something some people just can't do," adds Shalini.

Like Shalini's friend that are several others who find the tedious process of 'hi's' and 'bye's' extremely unnecessary. "I don't get it. Why should I hug someone who I just met yesterday? The worst is when they just cannot do without a hug!" states Anita Jacob. She recalls an incident where she was forced to hug a friend because they hadn't seen each other in ages. An awkward handshake and a forced hug later, Anita was feeling absolutely horrible. "I felt like as though someone just violated me," says Anita. "Intimacy has generally been an issue with me. I used to get repulsed even when my younger sister touched my hair or wanted to put make up when we were kids." adds Anita.

As hilarious as it may sound, the act of someone withdrawing from a hug is seen as a rude gesture. In our prim and proper society (or so we think!) being embrace aversive will make you stand out like a fool. "My daughter hated embraces of any kind. She stuck to just handshakes. At the most she'd hold their arm and lightly squeeze it but as far as I know, that's it!" says Geetha Kumarasamy. "I don't want to push her to socialize. That may end up in really bad way," says this parent.

Parvathy Jayan, a clinical psychologist, explains that proximity is a social psyche. "A person may have such issues due to a deep rooted fear of getting hurt," explains Parvathy. "That fear may be due to past rejections. It could be anything and not just lack of coddling during infancy. Many things can bring a sense of rejection in a child. There are no absolute reasons," adds the psychologist.

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