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    Unhappy Help me pls.

    hi,

    My would b is lean ( 69kg ) and am looking avg ( 60kg ) with my ht. And my would b family side everyone asked me to maintain same wt since it is perfect match for him. anyhow am trying to reduce my wt that could reach 58 to 55kg alone. Since if i reduce below it could show me worst. But my would b wants me to be 45kg !!! in 4 months. how is it possible? I told him that it could show me worst, and also gives me weakness. Yet he asking me to reduce instantly.

    Friends, any tips to reduce wt at least to 55kg or 52kg in 4 months? Please help me.


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    HI reswari,
    Better ask your would-be to increase his weight than reduce urs. U should b in normal weight to carry a baby after marriage. And too reducing weight instantly wil give you hormonal problems. So try to convince him.
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    Re: Help me pls.

    Hi Reswari,

    Better, you both meet a gynaecologist (your hubby is also necessary), and consult about this. I think, only after the doctor's advice, your husband may be convinced. Underweight is never good for health. As Divyakala said, it may affect your childbirth also. Consider this as soon as possible.


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    Re: Help me pls.

    Quote Originally Posted by reswari View Post
    hi,

    My would b is lean ( 69kg ) and am looking avg ( 60kg ) with my ht. And my would b family side everyone asked me to maintain same wt since it is perfect match for him. anyhow am trying to reduce my wt that could reach 58 to 55kg alone. Since if i reduce below it could show me worst. But my would b wants me to be 45kg !!! in 4 months. how is it possible? I told him that it could show me worst, and also gives me weakness. Yet he asking me to reduce instantly.

    Friends, any tips to reduce wt at least to 55kg or 52kg in 4 months? Please help me.
    Hi Reswari,
    Your problem is not an serious issue..So stop worrying.All men want their wife to look beautiful. Mathavanga paathu un wife alaga irukanga,nalla match nu sollanumnu aasa paduvanga. Your Fiancée too would have thought like that only. He may feel that reducing your weight to 45kg only will show you good. But u cant strain yourself and spoil your health in following any hasty ways..Better talk to him that you are willing to keep yourself fit. Follow a proper diet and do regular exercises to reduce your over weight alone. You can try to maintain appropriate BMI but shouldn’t go underweight. (Refer to fitness forum for many tips).Your conversation to him should make him feel that u r respecting his feel and taking efforts. Then He can understand you. While days move on your love towards each other will shatter all other things out..Wishing you to have an happy marriage..


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    Re: Help me pls.

    hi eswari,

    forcing activity wil end in a bitter moments.... so dont strain to reduce ur health.. be as u r.. dont change ur appearnace .............. if u force ur hubby to change his appearance means he will change ah? talk politely to him when he is in lovely and friendly mood.... if u try to satisfy him means, list will keep on going.. finally u will loss ur identity.. show ur love him da.......... dont strain urself for this small issues......

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    Re: Help me pls.

    i go with others suggestions its better to talk to your wouldbe about the issue and explain him that its better for him to increase the weight rather than you losing some since it may cause some serious issues incase if you don't have enough weight or strength to hold a baby in future explain him about this by yourself if you are close enough to speak or both of you consult a gynaecologist as suggested by some friend..

    have a happy married life


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    Re: Help me pls.

    Hello Friend,
    I hope that you would have already discussed with your husband, probably a fights also. I believe that you had come to the forum as you are not able to convince him in any way. Did your husband mentioned that you need to go to 45 kg? Normally , good weight can be height-100. Now a days, good hospitals have dietician. Take your husband along with you and convince him that you are also ready to reduce drastically. The dietician for sure will not agree to 45 kg . But, discuss about 45kg with the dietician. Dietician will start to advice about disadvantages of 45 Kg . Hopefully, your husband will also understand what is the correct weight and you can take it further.
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