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18th Sep 2011, 09:25 PM #1
The simple lack of her is more to me than others' presence. ~Edward Thomas
When a man begins to court a woman, his step is lighter and his inner Romeo is unleashed. Driven to win her heart, romantic creativity seems to flow easily. Every day is a new surprise: flowers, candies, love notes and dates. However,
when “I want to marry this woman” turns into “We’re married for life,” he often settle into a nice, comfortable rut.
A Man also mistakenly think that romance always requires a five-star production. But sometimes simple is better than complex, She wants to be noticed, pampered, listened to and, more than anything, fed mounds of luscious chocolate.
Actually, what she really wants is just to be shown a little appreciation.
The following is logical deduction of the husband's part of the equation, the equation being 100% + 100% = 100%.
Please read all the way to the bottom and I am sure you will count yourself blessed.
1. COMMUNICATE WITH HER
Dont preach,teach or talk. Not a monologue but 100% Dialogue
2. PRIASE HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS
Let your wife hear you brag on her while you're talking to others. She may blush or say something back, but secretly she's feeling proud that you're her man.
3.PRAISE HER TO HER FACE
Tell your wife that you appreciate all that she does and the love that she shows to you.
4. LEAVE THE STRESS OF WORK AT WORK
I'm not saying that you can't talk to your wife about your job or the things that bother you. I'm saying that if you've had a bad day, don't take it out on your wife and family.
5.DON'T HIDE ANYTHING FROM YOUR WIFE
Be open and honest with your wife about everything. Keep an open line of communication between the two of you at all times.
6. TAKE CARE OF THE CARS
Make sure that your vehicles are in tip top shape at all times so your wife isn't left stranded. Don't expect her to go to the dirty garages to get the oil changed and repairs done, do them yourself, or take them in for her.
7. BUY HER A FEMININE GIFT
Buy your wife a gift that will make her feel feminine, like her favorite perfume, or a pretty night gown.
8. DON'T FORGET SPECIAL OCCASIONS
Put it on your phone schedule, hang a calendar in your vehicle, do what you must, but DON'T forget your anniversary, her birthday, or Valentine's Day!
9. LEAVE CANDY FOR HER TO FIND
Buy a pretty box of chocolates. Leave them in her car or some other place that she's sure to find them. Tuck a little "I love you" note inside to increase the effect.
10. DON'T TEASE HER FOR PRIMPING
She wants to look nice for you! If you constantly go on about how much time she spends on her hair or dress, she may take it that you don't appreciate her femininity or her effort to look pretty. Let her know she's beautiful when she fixes herself up.
Forget the little peck Give her a kiss that will stay with her all day! Kissing for at least six seconds doesn't take that long but it makes for a much more meaningful kiss.
12. HOLD HANDS
Wives feel special when their husbands reach over and take their hand. It's just a simple gesture, but it goes a long way.
13. MAIL HER A LETTER
E-mail has its place, but for a woman, getting a letter in the mailbox addressed to her from her hubby. just a big romantic act
14.REENACT YOUR FIRST DATE
Tell your wife that you're taking her out. Tell her that you think it would be fun to do everything just like you did on your first date
15.DEDICATE A SONG TO HER
Call your local radio station and have them to play a song for your sweetie! Tell them why you love her and her name , and have them to repeat it over the air!
16. WHISPER IN HER EAR
Get close to your wife and whisper those sweet words of love in her ear. Try whispering something about your private love life in the middle of a public place and watch her blush!
17. HAVE FLOWERS DELIVERED TO HER
Take some time out of your lunch break to swing by the flower shop. Have the florist deliver her flowers to your home or at her place of work, or deliver them yourself!
18.PUT YOUR ARM AROUND HER
Put your arm around your wife while she's sitting next to you or while walking side by side.
Gently caress your wife's hair with your hand She loves to feel your touch.
19. COMPLIMENT HER
Everyone needs a compliment now and then, but many wives need a little extra reassurance to make sure that she's still special in your eyes. A compliment won't cost you anything, but for your wife, it could be priceless!
20. ALWAYS KISS HER GOODNIGHT
Never even close your eyes at night until you've kissed your wife goodnight
21.FINISH HOME IMPROVEMENT PROJECTS
Too many times husbands work so hard all week that they don't feel like keeping up the repairs at home.If you could work on things for just awhile, and aim to finish at least one project per month, it could make your whole household run
22. DON'T BE NEGATIVE
When your negative, it makes everything look worse than it really is. Try to be more pleasant. Look on the positive side of things.
23. SHOW PATIENCE DURING HORMONAL TIMES
If your wife gets a little hard to live with during certain times of the month, be patient. This is especially important too if she's pregnant or a new mother. She can't control her emotions very well during these times, and will need your
24. LOOK INTO HER EYES
While talking to or hugging your wife, look her straight in the eyes.She may feel shy and try to look away, but don't confuse this in thinking she don't like you.. Gently insist her to look at you,
25. ADMIT IT WHEN YOU'RE WRONG
If you are in the wrong, admit it. Don't pass it off like it's no big deal, or make excuses for yourself.
27. SACRIFICE FOR HER
Put aside something that you want so that you can give to your wife Make sure your wife is taking good care of herself too.
28. GIVE HER A MASSAGE
Grab the oil and lotion, then grab your wife! Give her a full body massage and help her relax.
29- CALL IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE LATE
Take out 5 minutes to phone her if you see you're going to be late.
30. WASH THE DISHES FOR HER
You don't have to clean the whole house, but just doing one chore such as the dishes once in a while, or at least cleaning up after yourself, will help her out a lot.
18th Sep 2011, 09:26 PM #2
Re: Evergreen Romeo
31.GIVE HER A NIGHT OFF
Watch the kids while she heads out to shop, to swim or music rehersal for awhile.
33. DON'T MENTION HER WEIGHT
No matter what size your wife may be, bringing up her weight is definitely a no no.
34.DONT ARGUE OVER FINANCES
If money gets tight, be very careful not to argue or shift blame.
NEVER EVER lie to your wife, even if it seems harmless. Trust is one of the most important factors in a marriage - don't break it!
36. RENEW YOUR WEDDING VOWS
Although we know that the first vows are good for life, still, taking your wife to a chapel or temple or Pagoda on your anniversary, or any day, and renewing your vows will let her know that you'd marry her all over again.
37. RESPECT HER
Showing respect is another important factor in a marriage. Don't degrade her, yell at her, or misuse her.
38. PROVIDE FOR HER
Do your best to provide for your wife and family. You don't have to buy a castle, just make sure it's nice and comfortable and there's food on the table
39. TELL HER YOU NEED HER
Let her know that your life just wouldn't be complete if you didn't have her. Tell her that you not only want her in your life, but that you need her.
40. LET HER CRY
Every woman needs a good cry now and then; sometimes she can tell you why, and sometimes she can't. Just make sure you don't get irritated at her or make fun of her Take her in your arms and hold her until everything is better. This
may be the very thing she needed anyway.
41.DON'T TEASE HER TOO MUCH
It's OK to tease now and then, but try to keep it at a minimum.
42. DON'T CORRECT HER IN FRONT OF OTHERS
If you feel that your wife has got a little out of line or has done something that you disapprove of, it's OK to talk it over with her in private, but never jump her in front of others
43. BE FAITHFUL
Always make sure that you're faithful to your wife in every angle. Keep your body, your eyes, and your thoughts only for her
44. GIVE HER LOTS OF CUDDLE TIME
Wives like to be cuddled and kissed without sex sometimes
Sometimes wives just need to talk - about anything. Show interest and listen to her when she talks. If she's upset, show concern. If she's happy, laugh with her. Try to pick up on clues that she may be dropping in her conversation to
let you know her needs
46. BE FORGIVING
If your wife should do something that offends you, be quick to forgive.
46. BE THE LEADER OF YOUR HOME
Many wives don't want their husbands to be the leader because they dominate. But if you're a good leader, you will also serve. Home leadership is meant to be the husbands role, and if you do it right, it will take an unnecessary load off of
47. BE CLEAN AND NEAT
Keep yourself groomed, clean, and smelling nice.
48.HELP OUT WHEN SHE DOESN'T FEEL WELL
If your wife is sick or has just had a bad day, try helping with her household duties and with the kids
49.DON'T COMPARE HER IN A NEGATIVE WAY
Don't say things like, "You gripe just like your Aunt ." Comparison often hurts self esteem.
50. PASS GAS IN THE BATHROOM
If you must pass gas, go to the bathroom. Don't do it to annoy her, or burp at the table. It's not as funny as you think itis - as a matter of fact, it's not funny at all.
51.GIVE HER A NICKNAME
Give her your own special name,
52. GO ON A SECOND HONEYMOON
Remember how special your honeymoon was? Take another one, and try to make it better than the first.
53- PROTECT HER
Look after your wife making sure that she's not in any situations where she could be harmed physically or emotionally.
54. SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM
Turn on some romantic music, hold your wife close, and slow dance right in your own bedroom.
55. SPEAK IN YOUR OWN CODE
Create a secret code word for something that only the two of you know, and say it openly in public! It's like having your own secret language!
Above all, remember that romance is spelled E-F-F-O-R-T. It is fun, but it is also work. Take the time to study your wife; get a masters degree in pleasing her. Learn what it is that sets her heart fluttering, and then get to it!