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Having One Child!


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    Having One Child!


    Came across this article which is quite interesting and so I'm sharing it here!
    But now, I'm curious to know how it is practically.
    Does having one child creates too much of pressure or its good in today's World?

    The Advantages and Disadvantages of Having an Only Child

    Several years ago, having big families was common and this was seen as an advantage. This was mainly because children began working at an early age to help provide for the family. But with the changing times and with the cost of living getting higher every single year, having a big family is no longer considered to be a practical option. In fact, more couples are now considering having only one child

    Despite the fact that we live in this modern age however, there are certain stigmas that have been attached to an only child:


    • He/she is lonely.
    • He/she is self-centred.
    • He/she is a spoiled brat
    • He/she is selfish.
    • He/she always wants attention.
    • He/she has a greater tendency of playing with imaginary friends.
    • He/she has difficulty socialising.
    • He/she is more prone to get sick.



    These characteristics however, are not always apparent in all cases of only children. But there are distinct advantages and disadvantages of having just one child
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    Advantages of Having an Only Child


    1. An only child gets very attached to his/her parents and has a great relationship with them.
    2. An only child gets the best in everything – material things and otherwise.
    3. An only child gets his/her parents undivided attention.
    4. An only child does not have to deal with other siblings
    5. An only child does not have to compete with other siblings for his/her parents’ attention.
    6. An only child will not be compared (intentionally or not) with another sibling.
    7. An only child is more independent.


    Disadvantages of Having an Only Child


    1. An only child may grow up lonely.
    2. An only child has no one to grow up with.
    3. An only child may get too much pressure from parents, to perform well or excel in school and other activities
    4. The parents of an only child tend to be overprotective.
    5. An only child may get bored of parental involvement
    6. An only child may have a harder time making friends.
    7. An only child may be pressure to have children in order to carry on the family name.
    8. An only child may become burdened about being the sole caregivers of elderly parents.
    9. An only child will never have the experience of having nephews and nieces.


    While these advantages and disadvantages focus mainly on the child, the parents also benefit from having an only child while undergoing some negative emotions due to their decision to have only one child.


    The most obvious benefit of having only one child for parents is – they are able to give more to their child in terms of material things as well as their love and attention. But despite this fact, parents of only children these days still undergo some challenges:



    • Parents of only children get strange looks or rude remarks from people when they say they have only one child.
    • Family and friends tend to pressure them to have more children.
    • Parents of only children sometimes feel guilty for not giving their child a sibling.
    • Parents of only children are worried about their child being alone after they die





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    Re: Having One Child!

    For many parents these days, having the experience of parenting one child is enough for them and that is fine. For others however, they want to have more and that is okay too. But you always have to consider a few very important things:


    Does your partner want to have another child?
    Are you financially capable of raising another child?
    Are you emotionally capable of caring for another child?
    Are you physically capable of taking care of another child?


    If you answered yes to all these questions, then you are ready to add another child to the family but if you hesitated on even one of these questions, think carefully.

    Remember, that the number of your children does not define who you are as a parent. What is important is that you raise your child to be a loving, respectful and responsible person.



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    Re: Having One Child!


    Very well said Deepa.

    The second post is a very practical approached solution.

    I am the only daughter and my son is the only son.

    The disadvantages, you have mentioned, were never felt by me. But I have felt all the advantages, you have mentioned.

    This is because, the way the parents bring up their children.

    My parents have brought me in such a way, that I never felt the disadvantages you have mentioned, so did I , for my son.

    I picked up so many friends from my neighbors , to replace my siblings,whose absence were never felt by me.

    But my son, feels only for the absence of siblings, and doesn't feel any other disadvantage.

    So, it depends on the parents' way of bringing up the child.

    Finally, this is my opinion, and it may differ with others.


    Jayanthy





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    Re: Having One Child!

    Yes ka, what u have said is absolutely right!
    It all depends on how we bring up the child...

    Infact indha post podumbothe nan ungala dhan ninaichen... It will be nice if u put comments nu... thank u.. I too got some valuable insight on ur experience


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    Re: Having One Child!

    Good one...but, having a sibling is a total different feeling for the elder one..
    At the early age ofcourse there will be quarrel, jealousy, all the child play.. but when they attain certain age i.e., around teen age.. They will be best of friends. There will a lot of attachments between the siblings in all the aspects they see. They discuss just about anything...Sibling is the first best friend you can get. Its really nice to have a hug from a sibling when you reach home after school... When you play together...When they count on the elder for some support...And for the parents.. its is divine to watch them play together, their conversations... etc etc...

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    Re: Having One Child!

    Quote Originally Posted by deepa bala View Post
    Yes ka, what u have said is absolutely right!
    It all depends on how we bring up the child...

    Infact indha post podumbothe nan ungala dhan ninaichen... It will be nice if u put comments nu... thank u.. I too got some valuable insight on ur experience



    Oh!!!!!! ha....ha...ha.....Thank you very much Deepa.

    ​We are more like a friend to our son, than being parents.

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    Re: Having One Child!

    Quote Originally Posted by nlakshmi View Post
    Good one...but, having a sibling is a total different feeling for the elder one..
    At the early age ofcourse there will be quarrel, jealousy, all the child play.. but when they attain certain age i.e., around teen age.. They will be best of friends. There will a lot of attachments between the siblings in all the aspects they see. They discuss just about anything...Sibling is the first best friend you can get. Its really nice to have a hug from a sibling when you reach home after school... When you play together...When they count on the elder for some support...And for the parents.. its is divine to watch them play together, their conversations... etc etc...

    Yes laksmi ka.. Having a sibling is totally a different experience.. I have 2 elder sisters and yes, its fun and care throughout..

    Thanks for ur valuable comments... Sure, niraya parents ku use aagum


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    Quote Originally Posted by jv_66 View Post

    Oh!!!!!! ha....ha...ha.....Thank you very much Deepa.

    ​We are more like a friend to our son, than being parents.

    Yes , ninga sollumbothe theriudhu sis.. u all r very friendly nu..


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    Re: Having One Child!

    Nice share deeps.... both advantages and disadvantages are clearly defined

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    Re: Having One Child!

    Quote Originally Posted by ramyas View Post
    Nice share deeps.... both advantages and disadvantages are clearly defined

    Yes Rams! Thank u dear


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