Being a Successful Father of Twins

Discover the Value of Routines.
I guess that twins are more than twice the work of a single baby because it is much harder to do the same thing twice over and over again. Twice the diapers; twice the feedings; twice the clothes changes. Two car seats everywhere you go. And because you are often balancing one baby on your lap while working with the other one, it can be really hard. Successful dads tell me that getting into a routine is important. Try to get them on a similar schedule so you are feeding both babies at the same time, changing them at the same time, and putting them down for naps at the same time.

Lower your expectations.
Having twins to care for can really sap your energy. So if you have a little more realistic expectation about how clean the house will stay, how much you'll get done on a Saturday, or how long it will take to get places can really help you maintain your sanity. Don't try to do it all with the twins; be more realistic about what you expect, and you'll be disappointed less often.

Keep things simple.
One mother of twins I know swears by cooking by crock pot. She loves the idea of getting dinner into the crock pot when the babies are napping in the morning, and not worrying about dinner again until it is time to serve it. She has the concept of keeping meal preparation simple. If you have other children at home, get them going on some simple chores to take some of the burden off you and your partner. It goes a long way to keeping life on an even keel if you make it as simple as you can.

Make time for yourself.
Because your partner may be home most of the day with the babies while you are off at work, it will be really important to her for you to take over much the responsibility for the babies in the evenings. She will certainly need time to recharge her batteries emotionally and physically. And once a week or so, you'll need some time to do the same. Recognizing what you both need, coordinate schedules so you can have some free personal time during the week. An occasional golf outing, a weekly bowling league game, or an occasional sporting event away can be a great help to maintaining your perspective.

Stay healthy.
Making time for a little exercise, even with the babies, will pay big dividends. Investing in a double stroller than you can push around the block while you walk or jog will help you stay fit. And try to eat right—lower carbs and lower sugars will help you keep your physical and mental edge as a dad of twins.

Connect as a couple.
Any new parents can have a hard time finding time to stay connected to each other; it is even more challenging for parents of twins. But make sure you take the time for a regular walk together (babies in the stroller), for a night out or a “night in” (with a DVD and some snacks), or other diversions to keep you communicating and together.

Acknowledge that you'll make mistakes and learn from them.
No parent is perfect; there will be times you screw up. I remember once holding one of our babies asleep on my lap while watching a college football game on TV. My favorite team was trailing by a touchdown with less than a minute to go. The QB faded back, made a long pass which was caught just shortof the end zone. In the emotion of the moment, I jumped up from the chair and cheered, dumping the baby off my lap onto the floor. I was totally shocked that I could forget she was on my lap. Fortunately, it wasn't serious, but it's important not to beat yourself up about little mistakes. Accept that you're human and move on.

Being a dad of twins is hard work—there is no mistaking that. But it is hugely rewarding as you find ways to make it work and to keep your sanity and have fun.

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