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How open are you to criticism?

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    How open are you to criticism?

    How open are you to criticism?

    You've probably heard. Actor Shah Rukh Khan and director Shirish Kunder got into a fight at a party recently, after Kunder shot a few sour jokes in SRK's direction. His contention was that SRK pokes fun at everyone but can't take a joke himself. SRK volleyed by launching a physical attack. Entertaining as that has been, the ability to take criticism in the right spirit is a good life skill. Take our quiz to see if you need to acquire it, hone it or, plain forget about it.

    A colleague stops by your desk and gives you negative feedback about your work. You...

    a. Stop him/her midway and say, "Thanks, but nobody asked you." It was none of
    his/her business anyway and it's not like his/her work is flawless.

    b. Wait for him/her to finish and then think whether his/her words merit thought.

    c. Let him/her finish. (S)he probably wants attention and to be taken seriously. It adds
    to your karmic points to hear him/her out.

    d. Know (s)he is right. You always muck things up.

    Before starting a new endeavour, you...
    a. Are very secretive about your plans. You never know who will throw a spanner in the
    works or steal your idea.

    b. Show the business plans to a trusted few and ask them what they think. After all,
    they've done this before and you can learn from their mistakes.

    c. Talk to a few, listen to their advice, but do your own thing. Everyone has their own path
    to success.

    d. Show your plans to everyone, and make all the changes they say.

    You final plan looks nothing like the first one and has no resemblance to your idea, but at least it's foolproof. You make dinner for friends and everyone loves it. A friend says, "The meat was great. Next time, you could try grilling it." You...
    a. Are not surprised. That particular friend always wants to upstage you.

    b. Agree grilling a healthier option.

    c. Shrug it off. You liked it and so did your friends.

    d. Knew you should have grilled it. All the other guests were probably too kind to say that to your face.

    It's a special night out and you're dressed real nice. Your date notices your new clothes and says, "Wow! You look different! This is not like you at all". You...
    a. Wonder all evening what warranted such sarcasm.

    b. Ask: "Good different or bad different?"

    c. Take it as a compliment.

    d. Think about it all night and finally ask exactly you wore wrong.

    At work, do you ask your superiors for feedback?
    a. Yes, but I ask others too, in case I don't
    like the first opinion. Or the fifth.

    b. Yes.

    c. No, why?

    d. Yes. Also my colleagues and juniors. And the receptionist.

    Your girlfriend/boyfriend accuses you of something. You...
    a. Throw back a list of accusations.

    b. Get to the root of the accusation.

    c. Walk out. This relationship is not worth it.

    d. Dissolve into tears.

    You turn in a written piece for the company newsletter, but the published piece is heavily edited. You...
    a. Know it's that senior gunning for you. (S)he could have just told you to make the changes instead of humiliating you like this.

    b. Thank the senior for the changes and ask if there are things you should keep in mind for the next time.

    c. Don't read the piece. Once you turn in the work, you lose attachment to it.

    d. Wonder if you will be fired for this...

    You are...
    Most As
    You think everyone who doesn't agree with you has an agenda against you. It's good to take criticism with a pinch of salt but your technique leaves you dehydrated. There's nothing wrong in having self-faith, but hearing others out, sorting the information and retaining what is worthy will only help better you.

    Mostly Bs
    You are adept at taking feedback but your ambivalence brings a risk. You should do some self-introspection and confidence-building. Sometimes, take the risk and go with your gut feeling, no matter what everyone says. You need to hone your judgement.

    Mostly Cs
    You take criticism very well, but only because you don't see it. It's a selfreliant, full throttle approach to life and if it has worked for you so far, that's great. However, the problem can't be with the other person every time and in matters that matter, you would do well to see criticism for what it is - constructive feedback.

    Mostly Ds
    You need to work less on taking criticism, and more on your self-esteem. In fact, you should see if you can just buy some online. With every negative expression, you flagellate yourself needlessly and this erodes your selfconfidence. What you need to do is find a person who scored mostly Cs and hang out with him or her for a while. Sift the criticism and don't take it personally. You're not worthless.

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