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my daughter not giving respect to elders


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    my daughter not giving respect to elders

    friends my daughter is doing her 4th standard, my problem is she not giving respect to elders. she justs uses.. vaaa pooo.. not vanga ponga.. i advised her many times, but she used to talk like this only. how can i change her character?

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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders

    Hi Mohana,
    My son is also in 4th grade. Children of this age 9 to 10 are considered grownup kids. I agree that they are tough to handle.

    They are also matured and can understand us well but the thing is we have to make them understand. You cannot command or order them to respect others. You have to come down to her level, pamper her and try to be very friendly. As per my experience be a friend most of the time and be a mother only when required, this trick works well.

    Bed time is a perfect time to have a good converstion. Spend atleast 10 minutes to talk with her everynight in the bed. Discuss with her about her school, teachers, friends, laugh to her jokes (though its not funny) and the most important thing is appreciate her. Parents physical touch will make them more comfortable so hug her, kiss her and make her nap on your lap whenever you get a chance. When you listen to your child she will also listen to you.

    Explain her the pros and cons of respecting and disrespecting elders. Ask her the reason that why she is not respecting others, whatever reason she says listen carefully and give her good advise in a way that she is able to accept it. Finally list out her good qualities one by one, tell her that she has all sorts of good manners and explain her that how the society will take it wrong and will create a bad impression on her for a simple reason that she doesnot respect others.

    According to me a mother can mould a child into any shape. You can change her, wish you good luck.

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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders

    Dear mohanasri, I understand your problem. She is learning everything from her surroundings. How you call everybody around you, how you call your husband infront of her all depends and directly reflects on her. Children can not be blamed fully for this behaviour. Hence As suggested by sister GayatriArun follow the suggestions and you will have better results. Allot sometime especially to talk, discuss and exchange of light moments with your child then slowly come to the point. all the best.


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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders


    Yes Mohana.......Both Gayathri and Sumitra have suggested in a proper way.

    Follow that and you may find good results with your daughter.


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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders

    Quote Originally Posted by GayathriArun View Post
    Hi Mohana,
    My son is also in 4th grade. Children of this age 9 to 10 are considered grownup kids. I agree that they are tough to handle.

    They are also matured and can understand us well but the thing is we have to make them understand. You cannot command or order them to respect others. You have to come down to her level, pamper her and try to be very friendly. As per my experience be a friend most of the time and be a mother only when required, this trick works well.

    Bed time is a perfect time to have a good converstion. Spend atleast 10 minutes to talk with her everynight in the bed. Discuss with her about her school, teachers, friends, laugh to her jokes (though its not funny) and the most important thing is appreciate her. Parents physical touch will make them more comfortable so hug her, kiss her and make her nap on your lap whenever you get a chance. When you listen to your child she will also listen to you.

    Explain her the pros and cons of respecting and disrespecting elders. Ask her the reason that why she is not respecting others, whatever reason she says listen carefully and give her good advise in a way that she is able to accept it. Finally list out her good qualities one by one, tell her that she has all sorts of good manners and explain her that how the society will take it wrong and will create a bad impression on her for a simple reason that she doesnot respect others.

    According to me a mother can mould a child into any shape. You can change her, wish you good luck.

    Hi Gayathri!

    You have shared best tips to handle children. Thanks a lot dear.


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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders

    Quote Originally Posted by GayathriArun View Post
    Hi Mohana,
    My son is also in 4th grade. Children of this age 9 to 10 are considered grownup kids. I agree that they are tough to handle.

    They are also matured and can understand us well but the thing is we have to make them understand. You cannot command or order them to respect others. You have to come down to her level, pamper her and try to be very friendly. As per my experience be a friend most of the time and be a mother only when required, this trick works well.

    Bed time is a perfect time to have a good converstion. Spend atleast 10 minutes to talk with her everynight in the bed. Discuss with her about her school, teachers, friends, laugh to her jokes (though its not funny) and the most important thing is appreciate her. Parents physical touch will make them more comfortable so hug her, kiss her and make her nap on your lap whenever you get a chance. When you listen to your child she will also listen to you.

    Explain her the pros and cons of respecting and disrespecting elders. Ask her the reason that why she is not respecting others, whatever reason she says listen carefully and give her good advise in a way that she is able to accept it. Finally list out her good qualities one by one, tell her that she has all sorts of good manners and explain her that how the society will take it wrong and will create a bad impression on her for a simple reason that she doesnot respect others.

    According to me a mother can mould a child into any shape. You can change her, wish you good luck.
    Hi Gayathiri... You have stated very good points.... Very good counselling. Thanks for your valuable ideas ma.





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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders

    Dear Sumathisrini, Parasakthi, Sumithra and Jayanthi,

    Thanks for the response.

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    Re: my daughter not giving respect to elders

    Hai mohansri,
    Enakku therincha some ideas solren...

    First advise ur kid to call them as vanga ponga..Each time when she started to call as va po insit her to call vanga ponga...every time..Do this for every time.....Introduce ur neighbours as lakshmi aunty,seenu uncle..uma akka...in this manner.. then automatically she thought them in these relation ships only..In front of her dont scold ur neighbours eventhough they r not good to u..Tell ur kid that if u give respect to those people,then only their kids will also respect u and call u as akka...
    I hope that these ideas may wrk......


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