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    Re: how to come out of this....

    Thanks for your encouragement, yes indeed great motivation by seeing your post dear, thanks a lot......
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    Hey lakshmi,
    First kudos to you for bringing up your kids as a single mother. All single mothers are next to God in my opinion. Saying that, Ok you have a cliche situation in most families having brothers but not willing to talk after marriage and parents afraid of taking responsibility of you and your daughters.
    One thing is although their behaviour is wrong you cannot blame them. This is how today they can survive and they can bring up their status. In the process of their life upliftment they just ignore or kill the real affection and stuff like that. So there is no point in worrying about it.

    Although you need their backup but not financially. That is from your point. But from where they stand, they can think only financial position first.
    Why I am taking about financial a lot. Thats the only reason now a days.

    Being said that.. talking to them once a while is fine. While talking to them dont talk about your crisis situation. just enquire about their wellness and general talk and stuff. Talk to your daughters. You would not know how well they get accept their situation and work around that. Talking is the only thing that makes your daughter understand their situation where they are now and act according to it. Tell them your current situation and ask them their idea. Daughters are more matured than their age. so they will surely understand.
    Why your little one is asking to go there? because she really misses her dad.
    But she can understand the situation when you talk. One thing is kids always become closer to the mom's family than dad's family. So she wants to mingle with them.But that is also true for your brother's family. They want to mingle with their mom's family rather than their dad's. This is how it is.

    There is no point in complaining when you know this how they will be. You do what you do correctly. You dont change for others. But ask yourself too, that you really want to do this coz when you strech too much, when it breaks the pain will be very much..in your side.. coz you did all the things to make it work but still you cant. so your pain will be much.. So dont overdo in any things. Just maintain a social relationship. I know if your parents complain about your gift, then tell them this is what you can afford. It is in their mind to accept it or reject it. Tell them if they are going to complain about everything you do, then you better off without doing it. After sometime, they will see the difference and they will realise. This is the key. If they insult you or degrade you, you dont yell, scream, complain. Tell them this is all you can afford and be proud of it. Remember you are a single mom and you are trying to bring up your daughter unlike your mom, and SIL's. They dont even know how the situation is like. So dont worry..

    Talk to your daughters. They are your pillar support. You will be amazed when you hear how they want to handle the situation.

    Hope it helps
    You are doing a great job.Keep it up!!!



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    Re: how to come out of this....

    Super USA Laksmi Sister.



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    Re: how to come out of this....

    Thanks.. As i told earlier its just lakshmi or nlakshmi no country, state or city pls.
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    Re: how to come out of this....

    Glad, i can be of some help
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    Thanks for your encouragement, yes indeed great motivation by seeing your post dear, thanks a lot......


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    Re: how to come out of this....

    Quote Originally Posted by nlakshmi View Post
    Thanks.. As i told earlier its just lakshmi or nlakshmi no country, state or city pls.

    Oh ok
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    Re: how to come out of this....

    Quote Originally Posted by lakshmirv View Post
    Really I felt proud of the friends / sisters and well wishers here. thanks thanks ...... thanks, May God bless you all, i do can understand.....

    Welcome lakshmi.

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