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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    Dear Jayanthi sis,

    Thank you for starting such a wonderful thread! It is not only useful to parents of teenagers but to parents who are having little kids, so that they can mentally prepare themselves for this stage.

    Viji and Sumathi sis, your inputs are invaluable, practical and extremely useful...


    Keep updating!! Thank you....


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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    Quote Originally Posted by sujibenzic View Post
    Dear Jayanthi sis,

    Thank you for starting such a wonderful thread! It is not only useful to parents of teenagers but to parents who are having little kids, so that they can mentally prepare themselves for this stage.

    Viji and Sumathi sis, your inputs are invaluable, practical and extremely useful...


    Keep updating!! Thank you....


    ​Thank you Sujana.....yes ....what you are telling is correct.

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    There are some WARNING SIGNS which need to be attended immediately and carefully.

    During this period, some parents may experience the following drastic changes, with their children.

    1. Extreme WEIGHT GAIN or WEIGHT LOSS.
    2. Sleep problems.
    3. Drastic change in personality.
    4. Sudden change in friends.
    5. Skipping school continually.
    6. Falling grades.
    7. Talk about
    SUICIDE.
    8. Signs of tobacco, alcohol or any drugs
    9. Run-ins with the laws (break the laws and get arrested)
    10. Getting brainwashed by bad elements.

    Dear Parents,
    please do not panic, by any of these changes or activities of your children.This is time, when you need to act smart, with LOT OF PATIENCE.

    Immediately, try to change them, by talking with them in a
    FRIENDLY manner.

    If you find this unfruitful, do not hesitate, to meet a
    PSYCHIATRIST or a TEEN AGE COUNSELLOR . They will be of great help to solve these problems.Please do not be under the STIGMA, that normal people should not meet the Psychiatrist.

    When, you happen to take your child to them, first, you may meet them alone and explain the situation, while later, you can take your child.

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    Sometimes, the girl children, may insist in going to PARTIES with their friends , which include BOYS also, when they happen to mingle with the HIGH SOCIETY FRIENDS.

    Naturally, parents WILL be worried about these, due to the unwanted happenings, in these days.

    To tackle this, you can allow them to go for a few and important ones (need not allow always).You can ask them to go with their friends , while going from the house.

    On the other hand, you NEED to insist that,
    WHILE RETURNING HOME, YOU SHOULD FIX ONE TIME FOR RETURNING AND EITHER OF THE PARENT WILL COME TO THAT PLACE TO BRING THEM BACK.

    When you insist like this, they
    WILL have a MORAL FEAR, to indulge in unnecessary activities.

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    Now, this is the time, the children may fall in the trap of INFATUATIONS.

    By the age of 13, please explain them in a soft way, that, they can treat their opposite sex as their FRIENDS, and be friendly with them, as with the same sex. They can be asked not go beyond this.

    Tell them,( or you may sense them), that, during this age, they may be attracted towards the opposite sex, in many ways. This is common with everyone.

    Tell them, just to enjoy these feelings and share with their same sex friends, but not with the opposite sex, since this is just INFATUATION, and it may vanish in due course.

    They may think this as TRUE LOVE, and may take disastrous steps, if it happens to fail.

    Explain them, that, LIFE, is not only this, but there are many more things to be faced.

    One of our family friend, humorously, told his son,"If you give a LOVE LETTER to a girl, and if she refused your proposal, don't loose heart, but, tell her to give the same letter to her friend".

    This made the boy, not to take these matters very serious.

    Along with this, the same friend told his son, when his grades were falling in his 8th and 9th standards,that, "Hey,please don't take this very serious, I think, only your teacher will commit suicide , by reading your answer papers".

    These words, really had a good impact on the boy, and later he,picked up very well in his studies, and never thought of SUICIDE.

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers


    பூப்பெய்திய பெண்களுக்கு அவசியம் தரவேண்டிய உணவு வகைகள்.

    இப்பெண் குழந்தைகளுக்கு , அவர்கள் எலும்புகளை, முக்கியமாக இடுப்பு எலும்புகளை உறுதியாக்கும் உணவுகளைத் தர வேண்டும். இதில் முக்கிய பங்கு வகிப்பது,
    உளுந்து சார்ந்த உணவுகள்.

    உளுந்தங்களி :

    தேவையான பொருட்கள் :

    உளுந்து - 1/4 கிலோ
    வெல்லம் - 200 கிராம்
    அரிசி, நெய் - 50 கிராம்


    அரிசியும் உளுந்தும் சேர்த்து 1 மணி நேரம் ஊறவைத்து , சிறிது தண்ணீர் சேர்த்து கெட்டியாக அரைக்கவும்.

    வெல்லத்தைக் கரைத்து , வடிகட்டி, வைத்துக் கொள்ளவும்.

    வாணலியில் நெய் விட்டு , அரைத்த மாவைப் போட்டு கிளறவும் .

    மாவு வெந்ததும், வெல்லக் கரைசலைச் சேர்த்து சுருள வதக்கி இறக்கவும் .

    இப்போது உளுந்தங்களி தயார்.

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers


    உளுந்து - நல்லெண்ணெய் உருண்டை

    தேவையான பொருட்கள் :

    உளுந்து - 1 கப்
    வெல்லம் - 1/4 கப்
    நல்லெண்ணெய் - தேவையான அளவு


    உளுந்தை வெறும் வாணலியில் போட்டு, வாசனை வரும் வரை வறுத்து பொடித்துக் கொள்ளவும் .

    வெல்லத்தைக் கரைத்து வடிகட்டவும் .

    அடி கனமான பாத்திரத்தில் , நல்லெண்ணெய் ஊற்றி, காய்ந்ததும் , பொடித்த பொடி, வெல்லக் கரைசல் சேர்த்துக் கிளறி இறக்கவும்.

    பின்னர், ஆற வைத்து, உருண்டை பிடிக்கவும் .

    இந்த வகை உணவுப் பண்டங்களை அடிக்கடிக் கொடுத்து வரவும்.

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers


    Please make a good friendship with the parents of your children's friends.

    This will help you in all kinds of communication and know better about your children and their friends.

    With this,your children and their friends will have a moral fear to indulge in unnecessary activities.

    And finally, though it is advised to keep the computer in the hall instead of any rooms, so as to keep a check on the children's activities, it is practically impossible.

    When you are not allowing them to watch their favorite sites, nowadays it is not a difficult matter for them, since there are many gadgets through which they could watch those things.

    They may watch them in their friends' places also.

    Once when they are told not to watch or do anything, they WILL surely do it.

    So, to handle this practically, better tell them, that, too much of watching unwanted sites will make them loose their concentration in studies and other things.

    Make sure, that they have enough sleep, while they study hard during this period. And a very healthy and balanced food is also necessary.

    Many girls during this time, will cut short their food habits, to keep them slim. Tell them the disadvantages of avoiding balanced food.

    Never allow the children to skip their Breakfast.


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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    Quote Originally Posted by jv_66 View Post
    Actually, the adolescence may start from the age of 8 itself.

    It may not be seen from outside, but the children may undergo many hormonal changes inside them.

    It may differ from one child to another.

    The first difference, we could find in them, would be, their separation from the parents.

    When, they want to be alone and away from parents, while sleeping or any other time, please do not get frightened or disheartened by their activity. This is quite normal.

    Actually, they want to be independent. So, do not force them, to sleep them with you as before.
    Hi Jayanthy ...Valuable thread u have started... and useful information also...thank you

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    Re: How to manage or handle teenagers

    Quote Originally Posted by vijivedachalam View Post
    hi...... good evening,,,,,,,,,,,

    its not very difficult task to manage the teen agers......
    because of hormone change, we feel some different activities in them...
    first one..
    their dressing code,
    second the crush in opposite sex..
    third always like to be lonely..
    fourth keep on dreaming...
    slight diversion and less concentration from studies..
    like to chat more with friends through mobile or internet..

    to overcome this issues,

    u be a good friend to ur daughter,,,
    talk openly to her..
    guide her in a polite way...
    try to give practise about meitation to ur daughter .
    indirectly monitor her activities..
    dont use harsh words ..
    dont stress her to study..
    while she is studying u sit along with her..
    keep the computer in the common places like hall or living room.. so that they cant misuse the internet....
    finally dont keep on watching themm.. be friendly.. thats all


    regards,

    viji


    Yes Viji, All these things are there in this age..... we have to be friendly with them .... As I am facing all this too... thanks for sharing....

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