I am a Punjabi girl who recently got married into a Tamil Brahmin family. In Punjabi society, the mother-in-law gives "bari" to the bride once she enters the house after wedding. "Bari" is the things that a mother-in-law has made for her daughter-in-law. Normally, it includes 11 sets of clothing and jewellery. Most upper middle class families give 3 jewellery sets. I would like to know what is the culture in Tamil Brahmin society? My in-laws are very friendly and quite liberal. The first time I visited their house with my dad about 4 months back after my wedding had been finalised, they gifted me a saree. Then, a month later my sister-in-law (my husband's sister) got married and my in-laws gave me a lehnga to celebrate the wedding as my mother-in-law put it. For the wedding,my in-laws had come to Delhi and they didn't bring anything for me which was odd in our culture. I thought it was because they didn't want to bring anything while travelling. A few days later when my husband and I visited Chennai for a few days, I again came back empty handed from the house. This is very very strange in Punjabi culture. I spoke to my husband and when he asked my mother-in-law if she has anything made for me, my MIL replied that since the wedding happened at such short notice, she couldn't get a set made for me from the jewellery that my husband's grandmother left. I have no doubt she would give me at least 1 jewellery set. But I would like to know if this is normal in Tamil culture. Because it is very embarrassing here in Punjabi society and I have to make up stories of my "bari" when my friends ask me about it.