Easy to achieve self confidence

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Trust yourself, then you will know how to live.
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe


For one person self confidence might be about speaking in public. For another, it might be about being confident in social situations.
For a third, it might mean having the confidence to approach potential sexual partners.

common definition of self-confidence centres on being assertive, on getting what you want. This is about standing up for yourself,
about having the presence, the personal power, if you like, to regard yourself as equal to others and to behave in a way that reflect this.

How to build self confidence ?

1. Dress Sharp

This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than
buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes
wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful?
People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase
your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence.
They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel
more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert
and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front
of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best wayto avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes,unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity,
get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process,
you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yoursel

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back
because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t
really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized
as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to workout not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking abou yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase
self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self- confidence is preparation.”
Prepare well and face the world with big grin on your face.

Best wishes,
viji
 

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Very informative - thanks for sharing.
 

vijigermany

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Hi,
Thanks,
viji
 
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Nice comments about the confidence.
I will add one thing that you must focus and work hard to gain confidence as you do for the college or university degree.Your degree provides you a plate form but the confidence takes you at climax.
 

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Nice innovative ideas
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Dear Friends,

g8 exchange of information....



Self confidence can be built into a person by a small success in his initiatives. Once we are aware that people are watching us with expectation then automatically we will be more precautious. once we do this our work execution will be of more confident...

as per me " NO ONE CAN INSULT US WITHOUT OUR CONSENT"

regards,...
 

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