feeling depressed when i heard that someone is pregnant

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I am feeling depressed when i heard that my friends / relative / or someone is pregnant. How to cope with this feelings is ?

I tried to avoid this but i can't. I feel why everyone can get pregnant but not me? I'm jealous or depressed? How to come away from this?
 

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Hi Chitra,

These kind of feelings and getting depressed is quite common for all the human beings and that too when a person who is not able to give birth to a child hears someone's pregnancy or child birth, this feeling is sure to come.

That too, it is sure to happen for both the husband and wife. The wife will be much more depressed than the husband.

Now, to overcome this, you can try the following.

First of all, when you hear someone saying that they are pregnant or given birth to a child, the next moment you congratulate them and immediately, you should say to your inner mind that one day is coming soon when all these people is going to congratulate you for the same instances.

And the next thing you should think in your mind is, let me pray for their safe delivery or for the welfare of the child.

This will certainly boost your confidence.

Immediately involve yourself in any other work just to divert the thought

And also say to your mind that this will happen one day or the other and you are not going to stop your try till it happens.

That time tell your mind , the below words

ARISE, AWAKE, STOP NOT TILL THE GOAL IS REACHED.

Getting pregnant may not be in your hands but having faith will certainly improve the situation. Drowning into the anxiety will never help.

Try all the medical methods to get pregnant. Believe in God and you can follow Sashti viradham, chant Garba rakshambika slogams etc. which would help you certainly.

You should have hope that, many couples have delivered their baby even after 15 years of marriage. you should tell to your mind that similarly you will also give birth to a child.

Or, if you have crossed some 15 years of marriage without a child and if your doctors have lost hope in your pregnancy, you can immediately go for adopting a child. Even after adoption, many ladies have delivered their own child also.

Once in a while you can cry as much as you can, which will certainly relieve your depression and immediately after that, tell your mind that "enough chitra......enough of crying.....God will never let you down......one day or the other you are giving birth to a beautiful baby.....so no more worries....only these hopes are going to rule your mind in the days to come". thinking like this, will certainly boost your thoughts while at the same time, you would have got relieved from your depression after crying.

We all pray for you to get pregnant very soon.
 
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Chitra,

It would be nice to visit a psychologist to overcome the dipression. People are afraid to go to a psychologist or a psychiatrist because they think othersmay form bad impression - like they are mad - about them. but in reality, they are doctors and in my opinion everyone should visit them atleast once in six months to get over the tension we feel in the present day world.

Also read Sivasankari's "Valartha Kada" which deals with this problem, a very nice, practical story.
 
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Thanks aunty for your detailed. Sure i will follow the method what you said. I can't even think about adopting, it worries me a lot.

can you pls help me how to do sashti viratham and chant garbarakshambigai slogam.
 

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Thanks aunty for your detailed. Sure i will follow the method what you said. I can't even think about adopting, it worries me a lot.

can you pls help me how to do sashti viratham and chant garbarakshambigai slogam.

Dear Chitra,

You can click the below link to know Sasti Viradham procedure...

http://www.penmai.com/forums/festivals-traditions/61470-kanthasashti-virat.html#post846125

கர்ப்ப ரக்ஷாம்பிகா ஸ்தோத்ரம்

கர்ப்பிணிகளுக்கும் கர்ப்பத்தில் உள்ள சிசுவுக்கும் எவ்விதமான கெடுதலும் ஏற்படாமல் காத்து, சுக ப்ரசவத்தின் மூலம் சத் புத்திரனை பிறக்க அருள் புரிந்து வரும் ஸ்ரீ கர்ப்ப ரக்ஷாம்பிகையை இந்த ஸ்லோகத்தின் மூலம் நாடும் பெண்களுக்கு கர்ப்ப ஸ்ராவம் ( அபார்ஷன் ) ஏற்படுவதில்லை இந்த கலியிலும் கூட.

இந்த ஸ்லோகத்தை படிப்பதால் சகல வித சௌபாக்கியங்களும், க்ர்ப்பபையிலுள்ளவியாதிகள் விலகி புத்ர பாக்கியம் பெறுவார்கள்.

ஸ்ரீ மாதவீகானனஸ்தே ரக்ஷாம்பிகே
பாஹி மாம் பக்தம் ஸ்துவந்தம் /
வாபீதடே வாமபாகே வாம
தேவஸ்யதேவ்ஸ்ய தேவீஸ்திதாத்வம் /
மாந்யா வரேண்யாவதான்யா-பாஹி
கர்ப்பஸ்த்த ததா பக்த லோகான் ( ஸ்ரீ)

ஸ்ரீகர்ப்பரக்ஷாபுரயோ திவ்ய
சௌந்தர்ய யுக்தா ஸுமாங்கல்ய காத்ரி
தாத்ரீ ஜனத்ரீ ஜனானாம் திவ்ய
ரூபாம் தயார்த்ராம் மனோக்ஞாம் பஜேதாம் ( ஸ்ரீ)

ஆஷாடமாஸே ஸுபுண்யே -சுக்ர
வாரே ஸுகந்தேன கந்தேன லிப்தா
திவ்யாம்பராகல்ப வேஷா வாஜ
பேயாதி யாகஸ்த பக்தைஸ்ஸுத்ருஷ்டா (ஸ்ரீ)

கல்யாண தாத்ரீம் நம்ஸ்யே - வேதி
காட்யஸ்த்ரியாகர்ப்பரக்ஷாகரீம் த்வாம்
பா லைஸ்ஸதாஸேவிதாங்க்ரிம் - கர்ப்ப
ரக்ஷார்த்தமாராதுபேதைருபேதாம் ( ஸ்ரீ)

ப்ரம்ஹோத்ஸவே விப்ரவித்யாம் - வாத்ய
கோஷேண துஷ்டாம் ரதே ஸந்நிவிஷ்டாம்
ஸர்வார்த்த தாத்ரீம் பஜேஹம் - தேவ
ப்ருந்தைரபீட்யாம் ஜகன்மாதரம்- த்வாம் (ஸ்ரீ)

ஏதத்க்ருதம் ஸ்தோத்ரரத்னம் - தீக்ஷி
தானந்தராமேண தேவ்யாஸ்ஸுதுஷ்ட்யை
நித்யம் படேத்யஸ்து பக்த்யா - புத்ர
பௌத்ராதி பாக்யம் பவேத்தஸ்ய நித்யம் ( ஸ்ரீ)

 
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Sri Madhavi kananasye-Garbha,
Rakshambike pahi bhaktham sthuvantham.


(refrain-to be repeated after every sloka)


In the forest of sacred jasmine, devotees pray,
Protect us Oh protector of pregnancy


Vapi thate vama bhage, vama
Devasya devi sthidha thwam,
Manyaa varenyaa vadaanya, pahi,
Garbhasya janthun thadha bhaktha lokaan. 1


In the shore of the pond, you are,
Situated on the left side of the God,
Oh respected goddess, Oh giver of boons,
Oh Goddess who speaks with grace,
Protect all animals and devotees during pregnancy.


Sri Garbha raksha pure yaa, divya,
Soundarya yuktha, sumangalya gathri,
Dhathree, janithri janaanaam, divya,
Roopaam Dhayardraam manognaam bhaje thaam. 2


Oh Goddess of the town of protection of pregnancy,
Who is blessed with divine beauty, who carries a good mangalya,
Who gives every one, who is the mother of all,
Who is pretty, who melts with mercy, I sing about you.
*The mangal Suthra-It could also mean a god with blessed form


Aashada mase supunye, shukra,
Vaare sugandhena gandhena liptha,
Divyambaraa kalpa veshaa, vaja,
Peyadhi yagasya bhakthasya sudrushtaa. 3


In the month of Ashada*, on Fridays,
You are covered with scented sandal paste,
And dressed in divine cloths and offered,
By lucky devotees, the Vajapeya sacrifice.
* July-August of the Souramana Hindu calendar


Kalyana dhathrim namasye, Vedi,
Kangcha Sthriyaa Garbha raksha kareem thwaam,
Baalai sada sevithaangri,Garbha
Rakshartha, maaraa dhupe thaiu pethaam. 4


I salute her who gives all that is good, who,
Protects Vedic pundits and pregnancy of women,
For she always protects children in pregnancies,
When the delivery time comes very near for them.


Brahmothsava vipra veedhyaam, Vaadhya,
Gosheena thushtaam radhena sannivishtaam,
Sarvartha dhatrim bhajeham, deva,
Vrundaira peedaayaam Jagan matharam thwam. 5


During the Brahmothsava,* along with sound of music,
Sitting on a chariot you go round the streets of Brahmins,
And I pray you,who is the giver of all that is good,
Who removes the problems of groups of gods,
And is the mother of the entire universe.
*Annual festival


Yethad krutham stotra rathnam, Deekshitha,
Anantha ramena devyaa thustachyai,
Nithyam padethyasthu bhakthya, puthra,
Pothradhi bhagyam Bhavethasya nithyam. 6


This jewel of prayer, composed by Anantha Rama Deekshithar,
For the sake of pleasing the goddess, If read daily with devotion,
Would lead to sons, grand sons and daily luck.


Ithi Brahma sri Anantharama Deekshitha virachitham
Garbha rakshambikaa stotram SAmpoornam.

Thus ends the prayer addressed to Garbha Rakshambika,

Composed by Sri Anantha Rama Deekshithar.
 

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