Feeling torn between your little ones?


Lord of Penmai
Jul 5, 2011
Feeling torn between your little ones?

Babies require plenty of attention: nurturing, feeding, ... Thus, the new baby inadvertently gets more time from the parents and the older child begins to feel as though he/she is no more important. Here's how you can ensure the older child is as happy about the new member as you are:

Involve the older sibling
Invite your older child to help you with the baby. Ask for help with things like fetching blankets or entertaining the baby with toys. But make sure you should ask your child if he/she wants to help. If he/she isn't interested at all don't force, or else it could cause resentment. In that case, try things differently. You could probably ask him/her what they'd like to do to help with. Hopefully, they'll offer some ideas that will make everyone happy.

Offer one-on-one time
Though spending time with your children together is a wonderful way for everyone to bond, it's also important to invest in some one-on-one time with each child. Take some time to read a story, colour a picture, or just sing some nursery rhymes.

Bond over activities
Plan special one-on-one dates with your children. Mommies can take their little girl for shopping, just you and her. Or daddy's girl can go with papa for a movie, while mommy takes the little brother out for cycling.

No scope for blame game
Something as simple as, "I can't play with you right now because I have to feed the baby" can place blame on the baby. Instead tell your child, "We can play together in just a few minutes" or "Go pick out a couple of books we can read together in just a little bit."

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