Good DIL-Princess of husband family

nish

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First and very Most important thing is Be cool and stay Happy!

When you are happy..you can spread happiness in Family!!!


1.Be Cool and happy!

2.Accept the truth that you cannot be same as you were in your home...

3.Dont do anything to satisfy your DH or PIL...Whatever you do,do it whole heartly and enjoy whatever you do!
 

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Dear nish, One golden rule which will always help you think that your in laws are your own parents, all is easy there after. Everyday after returning from office you share what happened in the office with your mother-in-law. You strongly believe that her mom-in-law is your best friend.
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Mother-in-law can be a good friend

If the words of Aristotle are to be believed that single soul dwelling in two bodies then befriending your mother-in-law can be the key to share a great relationship with her. Sharing ups and downs of your life with your mother-in-law would be a great start to boost the bonding.

To be a good daughter-in-law you should seek your mother-in-law's advice when you face hurdles, you should listen to her distresses, you should be able to be part of her happiness and sorrows and finally you should believe that mil can be the best pal of her daughter-in-law.


Give respect, receive respect : Respect given is respect earned. Respect should be the base of any relationship no matter if it is a relation of a husband and wife, a mother and child or a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. To be a fantastic daughter-in-law giving respect is the important factor to enhance the relationship.

In Indian culture elders' feet is the most precious and valuable one and touching feet of the elders is considered highly respective. Apart from this, respect is all about trusting your mother-in-law, valuing her decisions and not doubting her instincts. Clashes are ought to happen in every relationship but overcoming them can be quite an achievement. Look at every doubt, issue or disagreement as a challenge and how you can work around that.


Be yourself

Do not be prejudiced. If you are going to visit your mother-in-law for the first time, remember that first impression is the last impression. The simple formula to nurture any relationship is putting forward your real self.

It is true that one should give respect to in-laws. You should not tolerate domestic violence, harassment or abuse of physical or emotional nature from any of your in-laws. If you are being the victim of such abuse then as a responsible citizen it is your duty to report it to the concerned person or women's cell.


Show affection

The Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is always perceived negatively. But if in-law relationships stumble, it is not necessary that it will be always a mother-in-law's fault. Have you ever told you mother-in-law that you really adore her? Have you ever complimented her for making tasty food?

Let your mother-in-law know that her presence in your life makes the ride worthwhile. Have you ever though about buying a gift for her on the occasion of mother's day. Let your mother-in-law know that you care and feel concerned about her.


Secrets to be a good daughter-in-law

Understating daughter-in-law dos and don'ts may help you to handle relationship between you and in-laws. Where there are relationships there will be frictions. Sometimes you may not agree with another person's point of view, in such a situation you should learn to be calm.


  • Be optimistic. Do not form any preconceptions regarding your relationship with your mother-in-law.
  • Be respectful towards your mother-in-law.
  • Seek her advice when it is appropriate.
  • Agreeing to her whims every time may not be correct or even tough for you. Nevertheless you should respect her opinion and say what you feel.
  • Go out for a lunch, just the two of you or invite her for a lunch and prepare what she likes.
  • Get to know the positive aspects in her
  • Make her birthdays and anniversary special for her
  • Buy your mother-in-law gifts on special occasions
When you marry you are going to be someone's wife, someone's daughter-in-law and someone's sister-in-law. If you are not married you have the responsibility to make your fiance's mother believe in you. What say? At one moment you will be terrified of your mother-in-law and at next moment you might be giggling hearing the mischievous stories of your spouse's childhood from her. Give it a try, it is worth it!


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Hey Nish,

I am a daughter from a big join family and a daughter in law of a very big join family..

I have seen lot of MIls and DILs and all other In laws relationships,

We can have a smooth relationship with a person who wants to be smooth with you, otherwise all u r efforts goes waste..

You know a saying in tamil:" Erandu kai thatinall thaan osai" this is not only for quarreling, this is also for relationships. so once the other one is not ready you can not be smooth with them.

But I can say something "A life without expectations will always be happy". "Kadamaiyai sei palanai yerthi paarkaathe" will work out.
 

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Dear nish, One golden rule which will always help you think that your in laws are your own parents, all is easy there after. Everyday after returning from office you share what happened in the office with your mother-in-law. You strongly believe that her mom-in-law is your best friend.

Mother-in-law can be a good friend

If the words of Aristotle are to be believed that single soul dwelling in two bodies then befriending your mother-in-law can be the key to share a great relationship with her. Sharing ups and downs of your life with your mother-in-law would be a great start to boost the bonding.

To be a good daughter-in-law you should seek your mother-in-law's advice when you face hurdles, you should listen to her distresses, you should be able to be part of her happiness and sorrows and finally you should believe that mil can be the best pal of her daughter-in-law.


Give respect, receive respect : Respect given is respect earned. Respect should be the base of any relationship no matter if it is a relation of a husband and wife, a mother and child or a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. To be a fantastic daughter-in-law giving respect is the important factor to enhance the relationship.

In Indian culture elders' feet is the most precious and valuable one and touching feet of the elders is considered highly respective. Apart from this, respect is all about trusting your mother-in-law, valuing her decisions and not doubting her instincts. Clashes are ought to happen in every relationship but overcoming them can be quite an achievement. Look at every doubt, issue or disagreement as a challenge and how you can work around that.


Be yourself

Do not be prejudiced. If you are going to visit your mother-in-law for the first time, remember that first impression is the last impression. The simple formula to nurture any relationship is putting forward your real self.

It is true that one should give respect to in-laws. You should not tolerate domestic violence, harassment or abuse of physical or emotional nature from any of your in-laws. If you are being the victim of such abuse then as a responsible citizen it is your duty to report it to the concerned person or women's cell.


Show affection

The Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is always perceived negatively. But if in-law relationships stumble, it is not necessary that it will be always a mother-in-law's fault. Have you ever told you mother-in-law that you really adore her? Have you ever complimented her for making tasty food?

Let your mother-in-law know that her presence in your life makes the ride worthwhile. Have you ever though about buying a gift for her on the occasion of mother's day. Let your mother-in-law know that you care and feel concerned about her.


Secrets to be a good daughter-in-law

Understating daughter-in-law dos and don'ts may help you to handle relationship between you and in-laws. Where there are relationships there will be frictions. Sometimes you may not agree with another person's point of view, in such a situation you should learn to be calm.


  • Be optimistic. Do not form any preconceptions regarding your relationship with your mother-in-law.
  • Be respectful towards your mother-in-law.
  • Seek her advice when it is appropriate.
  • Agreeing to her whims every time may not be correct or even tough for you. Nevertheless you should respect her opinion and say what you feel.
  • Go out for a lunch, just the two of you or invite her for a lunch and prepare what she likes.
  • Get to know the positive aspects in her
  • Make her birthdays and anniversary special for her
  • Buy your mother-in-law gifts on special occasions
When you marry you are going to be someone's wife, someone's daughter-in-law and someone's sister-in-law. If you are not married you have the responsibility to make your fiance's mother believe in you. What say? At one moment you will be terrified of your mother-in-law and at next moment you might be giggling hearing the mischievous stories of your spouse's childhood from her. Give it a try, it is worth it!



hey great tips da...let me try and tell you dear..Thank you... congrats penmai super star
 

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