How to Tackle the Siblings' fighting in Children?

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Hi Friends,

Let us discuss here , about
how to tackle the sibling's fight among our children.

Moms who already have 2 or more children can share their tips and experiences, as how they tackle these situations.

This will be very much helpful, for others to understand the methods and they could implement with their children.

Members who have only one child or unmarried members can also share the tactics, which
their parents followed to tackle the fighting of the siblings.
 

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Ha ha... Very Nice Thread Aunty :wink:

Tactics lam Open Pannaal, Maanam Kaaththula Parakkum.. Well, Will Join you Soon :)

Illa Karthi, unga amma, romba nallave handle panni irupanga, enaku kandippa nambikkai iruku.....unga ammavai manasula vachu dhaan, "parents oda tactics" nu potten.

this is coz., ungaluku punishment kodukkave, unga amma, nalla "ஆக்கபூர்வமா " velai koduppangale.....adhe maadhiri, niraya tips kidaikume nu dhaan......

adhuve evlo mothers ku useful la irundhu irukum theriyuma......though pasangaluku , velai koduthu punish panradhu , thalai vali nalum.....

Almost ella mothers ume face panni irupanga....indha thalai valiyai.....epdi da....ivanga sandaiyai theerthu vaikiradhu nu.....

Of course, enako, enga ammako, indha tactics (kandippa enaku) theriyadhu illaya......
 

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//nalla "ஆக்கபூர்வமா " velai koduppangale.....adhe maadhiri, niraya tips kidaikume nu dhaan///

Ha ha ha.. Ithu thaan Nalla "Tactics" Aunty :wink:

Evalo Kutties en Post ah Paranthuttu, namma Amma kku idea Kodutha Pisasu iva thaan nnu Moththa Porangalo, theriyalai..!

 

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Hi jayanthy, much needed threads for parents to handle siblings fights..

Rivalry and jealous are quite normal part of kids life, but its our responsibility to help our kids to manage the feelings. Here are some of my points,

  • Should not compare kids with their younger or elder.
  • Have to give lots of individual attention equally.
  • Have to help them by teaching teamwork and its success.
  • For whatever the matter, kids should not be punished physically (like scolding, beating)
  • Have to maintain equality at all times between the kids without considering the gender.

Last but not least, have to take this as a great opportunity to teach them relationship skills and which is much needed throughout their life.
 

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Hi jayanthy, much needed threads for parents to handle siblings fights..

Rivalry and jealous are quite normal part of kids life, but its our responsibility to help our kids to manage the feelings. Here are some of my points,

  • Should not compare kids with their younger or elder.
  • Have to give lots of individual attention equally.
  • Have to help them by teaching teamwork and its success.
  • For whatever the matter, kids should not be punished physically (like scolding, beating)
  • Have to maintain equality at all times between the kids without considering the gender.

Last but not least, have to take this as a great opportunity to teach them relationship skills and which is much needed throughout their life.
Very useful tips..
 

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GM Aunty!

Now its Our turn!

As far as sibling fighting is concerned, it is best to be proactive and nip the problem in the bud instead of waiting to resolve it when it becomes a sore issue. When children grow a little, the competition also raise among them in order to get or achieve several targets. If it was not fulfilled by their parents or any one of them is highly prioritized, then the rivalry thoughts intuit in their minds. Here are My (Mom) tips which can be implemented to control these issues.

Try to encourage more to your children, instead of praising or criticizing them.
Don't scold your children, when they're fighting or arguing on any topic. Try to listen and bend yourself calmly by asking the reason of their conflict.
Kids have different their own aspects and interests.. don't compare one's cleverness with another's inanity. As a parent you should know the inner talent of your children and encourage them to do that in a better way.
Try to love more, listen more and guide more; instead hating, avoiding and meandering.
Teach your elder child how to take care, love and guide their younger ones. And teach your younger kids how to respect, follow and listen to the elders.

Enaku therinju Amma ipadi Sonnathe illai, "Oh ,look the drinks her milk faster than you , or He sleeps and does not disturb Amma like you do" Coz that leaving the order child in the case of someone who does not make her feel protected, etc, can trigger off jealousy towards the other and later develop into rivalry la..

Also, Amma avoided some situations that promote guilt in siblings. For example, if I had accidentally (Purpose ah nna Dandanakka than:p)hunt My brother or broken a toy, She never made us feel guilty. Instead, gently explained the damage it could have done and how We must avoid such an action in future.

Another must, while resolving fights, ithuvarai think panninathe illai ithu waste of time on figuring out which one is to blame. Athe pola punishing just one child will mark things worse na, So rendu perukkume Adichathukku, Odaichathukku Punishment.. Mopping, Water tank Cleaning, Kitchen la basic Work varum.. First Kastama irukkum, appuram naanga adichuttu, amma sollamale Work panna start panniduvom!

One more tip - Listen to both versions of the story, try not to take sides and instead, encourage the children to work out their differences.

As I said earlier,
He will always pick Me up
When I take a fall
And he's good at showing Me
How to catch a ball
He always tells these funny jokes
And does a crazy dance
Hey, wait!
He sounds like a pretty nice guy...
Let's give him one more chance

My brother's not for sale..
Not for any Price..

Ha ha ha.. Yeah, Nanga Best Friends eppovum! Sincerest Thanks to My Parents.
 

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Hi jayanthy, much needed threads for parents to handle siblings fights..

Rivalry and jealous are quite normal part of kids life, but its our responsibility to help our kids to manage the feelings. Here are some of my points,

  • Should not compare kids with their younger or elder.
  • Have to give lots of individual attention equally.
  • Have to help them by teaching teamwork and its success.
  • For whatever the matter, kids should not be punished physically (like scolding, beating)
  • Have to maintain equality at all times between the kids without considering the gender.

Last but not least, have to take this as a great opportunity to teach them relationship skills and which is much needed throughout their life.


Thanks Rudhraa, for the very useful tips......

All the points ought to be followed, to maintain a balanced parenting, between children........

And the final punch is a must follow tip for all the parents.
 

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GM Aunty!

Now its Our turn!

As far as sibling fighting is concerned, it is best to be proactive and nip the problem in the bud instead of waiting to resolve it when it becomes a sore issue. When children grow a little, the competition also raise among them in order to get or achieve several targets. If it was not fulfilled by their parents or any one of them is highly prioritized, then the rivalry thoughts intuit in their minds. Here are My (Mom) tips which can be implemented to control these issues.

Try to encourage more to your children, instead of praising or criticizing them.
Don't scold your children, when they're fighting or arguing on any topic. Try to listen and bend yourself calmly by asking the reason of their conflict.
Kids have different their own aspects and interests.. don't compare one's cleverness with another's inanity. As a parent you should know the inner talent of your children and encourage them to do that in a better way.
Try to love more, listen more and guide more; instead hating, avoiding and meandering.
Teach your elder child how to take care, love and guide their younger ones. And teach your younger kids how to respect, follow and listen to the elders.

Enaku therinju Amma ipadi Sonnathe illai, "Oh ,look the drinks her milk faster than you , or He sleeps and does not disturb Amma like you do" Coz that leaving the order child in the case of someone who does not make her feel protected, etc, can trigger off jealousy towards the other and later develop into rivalry la..

Also, Amma avoided some situations that promote guilt in siblings. For example, if I had accidentally (Purpose ah nna Dandanakka than:p)hunt My brother or broken a toy, She never made us feel guilty. Instead, gently explained the damage it could have done and how We must avoid such an action in future.

Another must, while resolving fights, ithuvarai think panninathe illai ithu waste of time on figuring out which one is to blame. Athe pola punishing just one child will mark things worse na, So rendu perukkume Adichathukku, Odaichathukku Punishment.. Mopping, Water tank Cleaning, Kitchen la basic Work varum.. First Kastama irukkum, appuram naanga adichuttu, amma sollamale Work panna start panniduvom!

One more tip - Listen to both versions of the story, try not to take sides and instead, encourage the children to work out their differences.

As I said earlier,
He will always pick Me up
When I take a fall
And he's good at showing Me
How to catch a ball
He always tells these funny jokes
And does a crazy dance
Hey, wait!
He sounds like a pretty nice guy...
Let's give him one more chance

My brother's not for sale..
Not for any Price..

Ha ha ha.. Yeah, Nanga Best Friends eppovum! Sincerest Thanks to My Parents.


WOW......Superb tips by Lakshmi ka....(karthi's mom)...... thanks a lot.

See....how the experience speaks.......kudos to her

Not scolding, no praising are really different aspects to be followed.

Listening to both, is ought to be followed. This will avoid the feeling of Partiality......

Explaining the damage and punishing both the children are quite different ,thoughts......these are surely welcome aspects.....


amma sollamale Work panna start panniduvom!
This is the real success of your mom's parenting......

Ada....Chellam.....ore adiya....kavidhai ellam pottu kalakkara.....super a iruku da......modhalla nee, oru Poem thread start panni, adhula un kavidhai, karpanai ellam kottu.......
 

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