individual family vs joint family

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my friends are suggesting that individual family is best. need some inputs . so confsed. living in joint family for past 1 year. we have misunderstanding too.. but i don't want to miss joint family.

advise me which is best?
 

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hai girl. . .
i think join family s bst .. .

bcs many benefits . .
to take care family. .
to help . . .
to advise. .
to avoid lonlyness
to maintain good relation with ur hubby. .
join family s good. . .

misundrstndng s nt a big prblm. .
if arise try to avoid or convince them. . .

vitu koduthu adjust pani life move panrathum oru sugam than .. :)

join family la ipadi prblm nu othunki pona. . .
vera prblme varatha???
yela lif style layum prblms undu. .
athu namma yeduthu kolvathil than iruku. . .

வாழ்க்கை உன்
வசமாகும் . .
புரிந்து செயல் பட்டால் . . . !


so prblm ah clear pana parunga. . .

misundrstndng yen yepadi vanthunu yosinga. .
athai solve pana try paningala?
ilaina try panunga. .

al d bst dear. . . :) :thumbsup
 

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hi varshas....

welcome to penmai!
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according to me.. both joint and individual family have its own advantages and disadvantages....

Advantages of joint family:(disadv of individual)


  • you get complete support of family members when ever needed.
  • your children will not left out alone at home when you go for a job,
  • you can share your joys and sorrows with them.
  • Another benefit, we don't have to ask for help from others if all family members are living together.
  • Each and every person will share their opinions and take a good decision

Disadvantages of Joint family:(adv of nuclear/individual)

  • no independent decision making...
  • you don't get that much freedom and privacy as you can get in nuclear family
  • you cant hide anything as u r in joint family


and one more thing , to be in a joint family all the other persons should think the same (ie to be together) .. even one person dislikes it, the whole family would suffer....

according to me... staying away and visiting often will be very good and healthier for the relationship....
 
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No Confusion! Please go for thanikkuduththanam when you are goody goody with your joint family members! All the best! Thank you!
 

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Welcome to Penmai Varsha.

When already you have started having some misunderstanding in the Joint family, it is safe to live separately with your husband, though you may live in the same area or in the same city.

And you can meet the others in the family every weekend and for all the festivals and functions, you can spend your whole time with the elders and others of the family.

If your MIL and FIL are in good terms with you (may be only your BIL and his wife may have some misunderstanding with you), then you can make your Inlaws stay with you.

Or even if you have misunderstanding with all the members, then the 1st option will be the best one.

By doing like this, you can have atleast good talking terms with all of them, instead of totally breaking up with them by living in the Joint family itself.
 

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