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my name is archana. i have 2 elder sister and 2 younger brother. my family is poor. my 2 elder sister got married . now my age is 24. after completing my 12th my family have no money to continue to study. so just wasted 3 years . my elder sister got married during my 12 th std and after 2 years my 2nd sister also got married. my 1 st sister is married to a man who is working in reputed company. so after 3 years my sister and husband asked me to come to their house and they will help me to study degree there. i went to their house and completed my degree there. my sister husband is good looking man and a very nice man . he is 12 years elder to me. i like him very much because he helped me a lot . one day my sister had some problem and she went to hospital. after coming she told me she is having some problem and doctor advised not to sex with husband. actually she is also not having child due to some problem. she cried a lot . one year i was there to help my sister. my sister told me her husband feels bad by not having sex at this young age. then she asked me do u like him. i told ya like him very much . suddenly she asked why cant u marry him. i was shocked. she added that we sisters are together for the past 4 years there is no fight , then why cant you marry him and satisfy him. i asked whether he will marry me. she told that she asked her husband and he told he likes me very much and also he accepted the proposal if i agree. then i told i want some time. i talked with my parents and my elder sister. they also told nothing wrong in it. i also love him . can i marry him
 

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Welcome to Penmai Archana.

In my opinion, I will never agree to this decision of marrying your BIL, who is already with your sister.

Many practical issues will certainly arise in the future.

First of all, now your sister may accept you as his another wife (after marriage). But in due course, she will surely become jealous , witnessing your intimacy.

No wife could accept the intimacy of her husband with another lady/girl.

She might start fighting for every single matter, in the later stage.

Next, comes the social problem. All the relatives, friends (your's, BIL's, your sister's) will surely talk ill of you all ,and your relationships. You may not be able to bear their rude talks.

Next comes the age difference. You are too young to marry a man who is 12 years elder to you.

Due to this, when he becomes old ( in his late forties) he may suspect you and your character, when you happen to talk with other gents. He may think, that he is not able to satisfy you, and hence you have illegal relation with other men. (I don't tell that this WILL happen, but there is a high possibility ).

Are you working? If not, please try to join any suitable job.

I think, you and your parents are worried, about getting you married. And your parents may accept for this marriage, because, they need not spend any money for your new marriage.

These type of marriages, ie., marrying the younger sister with the BIL, if the sister doesn't have any child, might have been common in the older days......during those days, lady's never raised their voice, and they had no confidence to stand on their own legs.

But nowadays, every lady can stand on their own legs with confidence.

If your sister, is not having any child or could never bear any more, they can adopt a child .

After marrying you, if you also cannot bear any child , due to the inability of your BIL to give a child, what will they do?

Better, you go for a job, and you can find a suitable match. There are lots of men who are broad minded, who will marry girls without getting any money from the girls' side.

So, you can hope for the best to happen.

Don't loose heart.

As you think, this is actually not Love, but only a fatherly affection, who has helped for your studies.

First, you can go to your parents, and be away from your sister's family.

Generally, these situations arise, when an unmarried SIL happens to stay with the elder sister's house.

According to me, you need not accept to marry, your own BIL, when your sister is still with him.

 
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actually ur words are all correct sister. but i have to say one truth. one day my brother in law proposed me when my sister not at home and i accepted. suddenly he hold my hands and told me he is suffered a lot by not having sex. and then he hugged me and we slept together.
 

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actually ur words are all correct sister. but i have to say one truth. one day my brother in law proposed me when my sister not at home and i accepted. suddenly he hold my hands and told me he is suffered a lot by not having sex. and then he hugged me and we slept together.
Then there is no other go, than to get married to him.

Then there is no point in asking any more suggestion about your marriage with him, when all of you are willing .

Please get married as soon as possible

You should keep your mind strong and act accordingly, if any of the practical issues arise (which I have mentioned in my earlier post) in your later life.

All the best for your future life.
 
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jv naanum onnu sollanum sollamaa
 

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jv naanum onnu sollanum sollamaa

Ennappa idhu ellarum enkitta permission kettu kittu irukkinga....yaaruku enna thoninaalum, adhai sollungalen......

Naan vera vazhi illama dhaan andha rendavadhu badhilai solli irukken....en manasukku konjam kooda oppalai.......avanga ellarum andha marriage ai virumbarangale......
 

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One thing you Remember.... u r going to live yr sisters life...

ur parents don't have money for ur marriage... so they r encouraging u...

same time yr brother in-law also ready for the proposal....anyway if u r not accepting... he is going to have another girl... that is sure...

but in future you both don't throw ur sister outside. this is my request.

No wife can tolerate this.... She has no other way... so she is accepting...
 

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jv neenga kudutha reply correct. . .
2nd vera vali illai so.. antha option than yethukanum. . .

ramya neenga sonathum correct. . .

bt akka irukum po intha ponnu proposl accept paniruka vendam. . .
hmm...
ippothaiku sola onnum illa. . .
 
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