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Hi,
I have a lovable husband and 2 yr old daughter. But recently i found a guy looking at me in my office as he may not be aware of my marriage as i look young. I am sure that i will never ever cross my limit and will not be pulled towards him. But i feel excited when he looks at me and feel as he want to look at me. I need to overcome from this. Please help
 

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ஹாய்

இதுக்கு ஒரே வழி நீங்க அந்த பையனோட நேர்ல ஒரு தடவை பேசிடுங்க. அவன்கிட்ட உங்களை பத்தி சொல்லிடுங்க. அப்ப இந்த excitement குறைஞ்சிடும்.

நீங்க அவன் உங்களை பார்கிறனான்னு பார்க்கிறதை அவன் பார்த்தான்னு வச்சுக்கோங்க. அப்புறம் அது நீங்க அவனை encourage பண்ற மாதிரி ஆகிடும்.

வேண்டாம் விஷ பரிட்ச்சை. இப்பவெல்லாம் சில பேர் கல்யாணம் ஆன பொண்ணுங்க பின்னாடியும் சுத்த தான் செய்றாங்க. இப்ப டிவி, பேப்பர்ன்னு இந்த விஷயத்தை பத்தி எவ்வளவு பார்க்கிறோம்.

முதல்ல ஒரு விஷயம் புரிஞ்சிக்கோங்க. நாம எவ்வளவு தான் இளமையா இருந்தாலும் நாம கல்யாணம் ஆன பொண்ணுன்னு வெளிய தெரிஞ்சிக்கிற மாதிரி தான் நடந்துக்கணும். நெத்தி வகுடுல குங்குமம் வச்சாலே போதுமே கல்யாணம் ஆகிடுச்சுன்னு தெரிஞ்சிக்க.

உங்களுக்கு அன்பான கணவர் இருக்கார், அழகான குழந்தை இருக்கு வீனா உங்க லைப்ல நீங்களே சிக்கலை உருவாக்கிடாதீங்க.
 
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Thanks a lot Ramya. Nan eppayume nethila kungumathoda than pa irupen. Avan yarune theriathu. Recenta than pakkuratha parthen. Inine kandippa enna mathikiren..thanks once again
 

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avanoda entha friendship-m vachchukaathenka... Just avoid him.

unka kudumbathoda neenka santhoshamaa irukka vaalthukkal.
 
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Kandippa enaikum antha madri friendship vachuka maten. Nan dark. So i developed lot of inferiority complex because of my inlaw. Apdi irukum pothu, oruthan pakkuranu therinchathum excite aiten. Thappunu therinchum i started feeling happy when someone looks at me. Enakenna acharyamna married nu oru vela therinchrunthum epdi ipdi pakkuranga.
 

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athellam paarppanka avankalukku vanthavarai laabam. ithanaala avankalukku ethavathu paathippu irukkaa... illai. antha pennoda peru thaan kedum.

neenka konja naal tamil news paper padinka... intha maathiri evvalavi incident varuthunu paarunka... ellame erkanave marriage aanavanka thaan.
 

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Hi friend,

Warm welcome to 'Penmai'.

I appreciate your open talk. You told that you know your limit and you won't cross your limit. There is famous proverb... Even the great may slip (யானைக்கும் அடி சறுக்கும்). As both of you are working in the same office, there is enough chances to get close. You pls. think of your lovable husband & two years old daughter. It'll help you to draw a line in between these emotional excitement and your family.

You go for some meditation classes like Vethathri Maharishi's 'Yoga for Human Excellence' (மனவளக் கலை), which will help you to differentiate good & bad of your life.

All the best.
 
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Thanks a lot Sumathi. To be frank i dont have any attraction towards him. Also i will never ever have any sexual feelings towards another guy than my husband. But i have some other feel. Today i am on leave. So i am feeling as that guy would be expecting to see me. I know this is wrong. But my thoughts are around that. I need to overcome from this completely. I feel shame on me at times
 
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