pregnant by brother in law

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My name is Ramya. I am 25 years old. My sister is 5 years older than me. She had married before 10 years ago. She has no child. Doctor confirmed that she can't be carry a child. They suffered a lot without having a child. I am not interested in marriage although my family compelled for my marriage. But I refused it. Two years ago, one day my sister came to me and cried a lot for not having child. She asked me to give birth a child for her husband. First I refused her. After that she came daily and cried lot. My family also suggests me to do that for my sister since you are not going to marry, then why you can't carry a child for your beloved sister. Then I agreed to carry a child only through artificial insemination. We consulted a doctor. She checked my body and I am good condition for artificial insemination. But the cost of charge she told in lakhs. We are poor family we can't pay that amount. We have also consulted two three doctors but the result is same. My sister started weeping. This time she becomes very serious since she has a faith having a child by me and it suddenly broken. She was affected mentally and physically. I feel pity of my sister. I can't able see the condition of my sister. she didnt eat for a week. i went to see her. by seeing her condition i asked what you want. she asked to promise to gave birth a child by sex with her husband. then only, I accepted to my sister to carry a child for her husband by having sex with her husband. I thought for one day only we have to sex with him.she also told me just one day only you have to sacrifice. But the condition is different. i am not pregnant after having sex. we consulted a doctor. The doctor told that you can't be pregnant by one day. At least you have to sex for one month. then my sister told me you have entered half well, please fulfill it. then I have sex with my brother in law for one month. After that I have become pregnant. then i came to my home, but that time i starved for sex. After some months I gave birth to a female child. doctor adviced me to give milk for 5months.so, I have been in my sister's house for this 1 year to feed the child. oneday, my sister husband came one night and asked me for sex. I also allowed him because I also started loving him since we have lived as husband and wife also i am starving for sex for one year. Now only I understand about marriage. i told my brother in law, that i cant imagine other than you to sex with me. My sister husband told my condition to my sister and she told to my family members. All consulted and told me let you marry my sister husband. My sister also accepted since she had only done a sin to me. I also in a mind to accept this. I know I can't be a legal wife. But since we are sisters there will be no problem with us. What I have to do.
 
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Hi Ramya,
what ever you called as sacrifice its simply spoiled 4 person life indirectly i would say its only because of financial constraint..its really illegal anyway now you have to decide which way you want to go..but all ways come into one junction either you or your sister will get suffer ..oh ya new kid as well.
i think this decision you have taken because you have given more value to emotion than the practical.but i wish you all the best and wishing you a good life to you and your new born baby..
cheers
 
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This has spoiled many lives due to your sister's deeds that she has done and made you do this. Now the option you have is to consult a person with great experience. May be an astrologer to know what can be done to lead a happy life even after all this.
 

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Hi Ramya,

My personal opinion is, when we are taking such decisions we need to think about all the futue and present issues. Anyway your family should have guided you properly in this. But they missed to do this. Now it is too late to talk about the past. But now you can marry him. That is the best and safe for you and ur baby also. I know it is not legal, but you can live. But with out marriage ur life will be in problem and confusion. You cannot live nomal(Already u mentioned about ur feelings also).So already did mistake , but you dont continue it for life. Be happy with ur decisions.

My friend family the same situtaion happend like the same. They all are living together with out any problem. So all need is great mind. Because now any way life needs to pass. So adjust to this life and take good decision.

God bless you :) Have a nice life ma :) take care
 

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Hi ramya,
I feel pity about your situation.at 25yrs of age your life turned to be an mystery by your own family and relations.unwanted problems were caused not only because of your sister but also due to your brother in law.he is actually not a worry person nor a proper husband.if he had supported your sister and convinced her then they would have gone for the option of adopting a child.how can he live with u even it was your sister who asked to do so..also you should have thinked about the consequences na..Anyway past is all over.take care of your health.you are in a situation to marry him and u have to actually.being in your age group i can understand your physical and emotional requirements.but please be confident enough to face any further problems.your own sister may turn opposite to u.every woman wants their OWN husband.also discuss with your family whether they are going to reveal to the society that its your child.if they dont want then plan what should be done in future.i'm not saying to frighten to you.but pls be prepared for future.as time spans every problem has its own solution.now after all happened its advisable to marry him.but cant you get a legal permission from your sister?i dono about the law in this case.if u can then u will be benefited..wishing u and ur family lots of happiness..
 
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legally the female child born out of ur relationship gets a legal status.
but wen it come to ur legal postion.. u have no rights over his property nor anything.
 

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