problems with mil. how to handle her?

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hi friends

i am married before 8 months. start of our marriage life was good. everything was ok. but after 3 months problems started. my mil started reporting to my hubby tat i am not listening to her words, not respecting her, not doing work properly like that. every day she reports something about me to my husband and that too infront of me. my hubby simply replies her that he would advice me. earlier he adviced me and not try to listen what i am saying. but afterwards he itself understood that his mom only unnecessarily complaining me. though he understood the fact he can't support me infront of my mil. when she is saying something, he is advicing me only and ask sorry later.

why my mil behaves so silly. how to handle her?
 

Amrudha

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hai Rekhakrishnan
This is the most common problem in ones family. Dont push yourself into any stress. After all your husband knows the truth and supports you. Simply neglect your mil's behaviour. She may be facing insecurity inside, instead of showing it outside she will be expressing her emotions in this way that is usually the way in laws defend themselves. These mil problems are faced by many and there are no cent percent solutions for these kind of Problems. Try to keep making things correct whenever a problem arises. Play a bit smart in some situations and be confident and brave. All the best :)
 
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hi amrudha thanks for your reply. i am also trying to neglect her. but i can't. i get irritated when she behaves like that and when my husband scolding me infront of my mil.
 

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It's alright rekhakrishnan. If you have already tried to discuss it with him, then wait for sometime. else talk to him nicely about it how much you hurted.
 

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Rekha @rekhakrishnan ,
If your husband understands the real situation dont push him to support you. This will backfire. He might endup showing his frustration on you. Dont take anything personally. Try to be patient and if you cant, politely speak up to your mil. Tell her that you are trying to fufill her expectations and maybe you are failing. Ask her to guide you and teach their family routines. Saatchi kaaran kaalla vizhuradha vida sandakaaran kaalla vizhuradhu better. If you place her in the guru sthaanam, she might quit complaining. Try this.

Best wishes.
Rathi
 
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