Shall i invite my friend to my valaikaapu?

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Hi friends,

I am not new to Penmai but registered today only to ask a question?

My friend miscarried before 5 months. She is very close to me. Shall i invite her to my valaikaapu function. I don't have any superstitious beliefs, but i don't want to hurt her feelings and also i don't want to hurt her by not inviting her. I am so much worried..
What should I do?
 

Divyakala

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Hi Friend,
Welcome to Penmai..
If you dont have any superstitious beliefs, please invite her .. She will be hurt if you are not inviting (as u told she is ur close frnd). Coming and not coming to your function is upto her
(according to her feelings)
Dont worry for these things dear..
You have a very good heart..
Feel free and be happy. That will be good for your baby..
Have a safe delivery. :pray1:
All the best:thumbsup
 

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Welcome to Penmai and Congrats Hema for your Pregnancy.

You can very well invite your friend for your valaikaappu. You cannot avoid such a close friend for the most important occasion.

You can visit her personally and explain that you can understand her loss and at the same time, you never want to avoid her presence in the lifetime occasion.

You can tell her, that she could think positive as she will also celebrate a similar occasion very soon. "குழிப் பிள்ளை மடில " As the saying goes, very soon she will also celebrate similar function for herself.

You can tell her that nowadays, no one will talk offensive about her state today, as it was in the earlier periods. So, she can very well attend the function and feel diverted from her loss.

On the other hand, you can tell her, that you respect her feelings and it is in her hand whether to attend the function or not. And you may tell her, that you will fully understand her, if she doesn't want to attend the function and make her mind more miserable.
 
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Thank you Divya and Jayanthy. Thanks for your serious reply. I too consulted my husband and my mom they too said to invite her. Today evening thought to call her. Praying she should take this happy and bless me in this occassion.
 

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