sister in law is troubling me

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Hi... I am karthika. i got married before 3 years still now i dont have child.
I am getting treatment for my prob. there is no prob with my husband and mil. they are having hope and waiting for good news. but now a days my sil, my husband's elder sister, is coming to our home often and trying to provoke my mil against me.unfortunately, i heard their discussion. my sil wants to make 2nd marriage for my husband as i am not have a child. she congesting her thoughts into my mil. I am so much worried about her behaviour. i didnt heard any harsh words from my mil still for this reason. now a days my mil also not talking well as before. i am so much worried. pls help me. what can i do. how to i handle my sister in law.
 

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Please do not worry Karthiga.

HAVE FAITH IN GOD. Every problem will be solved.

First, you talk with your husband.Be sure, that he is not upset with your treatment. PLEASE DO NOT TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR OVERHEARING. Also, you give hope to him, that, you will have the child very soon.

Next, talk to your MIL, when she is alone. Tell her, that your treatment is going well, and the doctor has assured you about your pregnancy,positively. And, you can quote about anybody else, from your known circle, who have undergone similar experiences. You may also tell her, if nothing is possible (now a days, everything is possible), you may adopt a child,since , both you and your husband love each other.Assure her also, about your GOD'S FAITH.

Then, talk to your SIL, elaborately about your treatment, your faith, and similar people who have succeeded in the treatments. Here, please do not boast about your intimacy with your husband, then she might take her next step, to confuse your husband.

ALL PENMAITES PRAY FOR YOU TO GET PREGNANT SOON.
 

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Dear Karthika, Don't worry. As Jayanthy suggested pray the God. This is only a problem of short term duration. We here in Penmai.com also pray the God for your early successful pregnancy. Talk to your husband if you want make your doctor talk to your husband when he is accompanying you to go to doctor. And sometimes you take your mil and sil as escort with you to doctor so that the doctor will impart confidence in their mind positively about the treatment. Time will be only answer for all these problems. These are all like passing clouds. soon the clouds will disappear the same way you will be success in your mission. Be cheerful. Don't be afraid of anything. Pray the God. All the best. thanks
 

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hi karthika, stop worriying....................... u r a bold person................... ok........ think u r bold and positive person................................. who is she to arrange second marriage to ur husband........................... first u be bold......... don confuse ur mind for ur sil.......... u be stubborn, that very soon u r going to get pregant..... 24 hours think about the baby...... dont give negative charge to ur mind............. its usual somebody will disract.... bu we should be bold and handle the situation positively.................... u talk openly to ur mil, that i always need ur care and blessings, ............. and pray the god.................... first no one cant do second marriage when firs wife is alive...................... u r educated dear........ dont worry for silly matters.........happiness is awaiting for u......... be ready to welcome the happiness.. all the best karthiga....
 

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Please do not worry Karthiga.

HAVE FAITH IN GOD. Every problem will be solved.

First, you talk with your husband.Be sure, that he is not upset with your treatment. PLEASE DO NOT TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR OVERHEARING. Also, you give hope to him, that, you will have the child very soon.

Next, talk to your MIL, when she is alone. Tell her, that your treatment is going well, and the doctor has assured you about your pregnancy,positively. And, you can quote about anybody else, from your known circle, who have undergone similar experiences. You may also tell her, if nothing is possible (now a days, everything is possible), you may adopt a child,since , both you and your husband love each other.Assure her also, about your GOD'S FAITH.

Then, talk to your SIL, elaborately about your treatment, your faith, and similar people who have succeeded in the treatments. Here, please do not boast about your intimacy with your husband, then she might take her next step, to confuse your husband.

ALL PENMAITES PRAY FOR YOU TO GET PREGNANT SOON.

Nice counselling Jayanthi.
 

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Hi Karthika,

Since husband loves you and understands you well then you need not worry about it. When you are sure that your husband will not tie the knot to anyone else there is nothing to worry about it. Tell your husband about the conversation that you overheard about remarriage and discuss with him, he will definitely convinse you saying that he will not get remarried so that you will feel relaxed because more than our words you will be happy to hear this from your husband, also your husband might take more effort to consult the doctor and to get a baby soon so as to bring all the problems to an end. He will also support you emotionally.

Be positive. Read more about visualization, since lots of people had got cured with quite a lot of personal, emotional and health issues with visualization. May God bless you with a kid soon.
 
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I don't the exact law in your state but mostly the wife can file against his husband if he try to do another marriage.So i think you find any lawyer in your state and ask him because he will better tell you that what to do under this situation.
 

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hi Karthika,
Ithellam hyderali kaalathu blackmails.. Ippadi neenga bayantha appuram unga hubby mela ungalukku nambikkai illainu thaan artham.. yaar venumnaalum vandhu unga familyla athu SIL aanaalum kuttaiya kulapalaamnaa.. appo unga 3 yrs of understanding wastea poyidum...

first of all.. its only 3 years.. neenga doctor kitta ponalum.. unless you have a serious problems they will treat in the normal pace..

appadi romba varutha patta.. you have various options like IVF.. etc etc..
First unga hubby kitta pesunga... neenga indha maathiri overhear pannatha sollunga.. ithe complaint maathiri sollathinga.. but this is the matter he should know..when your hubby is in good mood.. tell him what you overheard. dont blame anybody just say "ennaku kastama irukuthu"nu... appo oru kuzhandhai irundha thaan avunga wifea.. appo wife position kooda not permanent..? ask him? Dont be emotional, Dont blame anybody(ur inlaws). Just say how you feel to your hubby.. Pasangalukku vaarisu nu varum pozhudhu ellam ammakalum appadi than first reaction pannuvaanga, but neengalum unga hubbyum unga MIL eppadi purinju avaungala kastapaduthaama puriya vaikiringalo..athu unga kaila iruku...

first bayapadaathinga.. positivea think pannunga...minda peacefulla vachikonga.. bodya healthya vachikonga.. ungalala ennalam effort poda mudiyumo, like 100% effort from your side to get pregnant or for the process of getting pregnant pannunga...

again 3 years is not at all a big number... so dont worry...hope it helps...
 

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