they say that there can only be one queen in the family. When you are with your husband and kids, you are the queen - but when you are, lets say, having dinner with your MIL, remember that SHE is the queen, not you. Remember that she has earned that right as a MOTHER. If she relinquishes it to you, that is well and good. If she does not, then you should take a step back. You will understand this from years of bringing up your kids and later on when they have their own families.