You + Me = an Account


Lord of Penmai
Jul 5, 2011
You + Me = an Account

"Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner." - Amy Bloom

Worldwide statistics have shown that more and more marriages end in divorce. In some areas there are three divorces for every four marriages!!

There is something that you and I can do to “stay out of the statistics” and have a happy, successful marriage

Your marriage needs love, support, tolerance, communication, realistic expectations, caring, nurturing, and a sense of humour to be successful.

The Basic Rule

Give More Than You Take.

you may wonder about this giving and taking idea.

Let me explain it using a simple metaphor – a savings account.

Imagine a savings account Your marriage is an Account

Both the partners are two potenial Depositors.

To start an account needs some requirments or Eligibility

Requirments 4 Ds

1. Desire:

Both husband and wife have to have a really strong desire to have a happy and successful marriage.
Not just a wish – a burning desire.

2. Decision:

Both husband and wife have to decide together that they are going to do whatever it takes to make theirs a happy and successful marriage

3. Discipline

Together, both husband and wife have to be disciplined enough to do the things that are necessary to have a successful marriage. When challenges come (and they do!) they have to realise together that it is only a challenge, and that it
can be overcome by working in a disciplined manner to get the challenge out of the way

4. Determination

Both husband and wife must have the necessary determination, the dogged determination really, to do whatever it takes to keep their marriage a happy, successful one.

Marital Account

For marital account they need love, respect, commitment, time, effort, sacrifice, assistance, support, etc.

These are the things couples have to deposit into their “Marital Account” in order to make it grow.


In order to put more into your marital account you have to be willing, no keen, to show more love towards your spouse than you get in return. This is especially applicable if you’re a man, because men tend not to show their
affection for their wifes as often as their wifes would like to receive it.

2. Respect

In order to put more into your marital account you have to be willing, no keen, to show more respect towards your spouse than you get in return.


In order to put more into your marital account you have to be willing, no keen, to praise your spouse more than you expect to be praised.

4. willing to getup

In order to put more into your marital account you have to be willing, no keen, to get up more often during the night to care for your sick child than you expect your spouse to do – yes, you too, mister!

5. Not a one way road

If one spouse just keeps on giving, while the other one just selfishly gobbles up all those “deposits” it will also not last.

6. Keep your Spouse centre stage

Your attention or your main focus is on your Hero Herione

7. When you’re together, be there!

When you spend time with your spouse (which you should be doing daily, by the way), be there.mentally too.
Listen carefully, and actively.

8. Imperfect people

“Marriage is a commitment of one imperfect person to another imperfect person.”

You are not perfect (are you?); therefore you cannot expect your spouse to be.

Allow your spouse to make mistakes, and rather than criticising, help him/her to grow and overcome those shortcomings.

For your successful growing marital account you deserve a wonderful Interest too your precious child.

If you really want to have a successful marriage you'll go out of your way to do anything and everything necessary to make your marriage successful.

Best wishes,

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